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Neighbour put 15ft pool right next to our house

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DarkMoon · 27/07/2018 15:22

Bit of background, neighbour regularly has music blaring out of her windows full blast all day long, screams at her kids daily, often calling the little shits or c**ts and quite often leaves the 12 year old to look after the 9 and 5 year old.
3 weeks ago she bought a 15ft long pool and placed it right next to our fence where our patio is with our outdoor table and chairs.
The kids are in that pool daily often for hours at a time, shrieking and swearing and splashing water over the fence, they have ruined food we've had on the table, my eldest dd's homework almost my phone and my 3 year old dd now hates going outside when there is any noise.
The mother doesn't give a shit, she's even left the eldest in charge whilst she's at work and they've been in that pool all day with a few younger kids who aren't hers.

I have no problems at all with kids playing in gardens and making noise but this is like torture, our gardens are 65ft long and she's put this pool as close to the house as possible.

Aibu to report her for noise and neglect or am I just being a miserable cow?

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KatieKittens · 27/07/2018 15:35

If you have a genuine concern about about safeguarding you need to start keeping records and report it.

Are you 100% sure that the children are being left on their own and that there is not another adult inside the house? If this is the case then it is neglect, as the children are not safe on their own all day with access to a swimming pool.

Contact the nspcc for advice ASAP
www.nspcc.org.uk/what-you-can-do/report-abuse/

As for the noise, I’ve seen posters on here saying that the council don’t consider the noise of children playing as grounds for complaint.

However, the water being splashed into your garden could be?

ltk · 27/07/2018 15:38

If those dc have really been left on their own with a swimming pool, you need to report that asap. That is a clear and urgent hazard!

triangulator · 27/07/2018 15:40

You should move your table and chairs at the very least....

Other than children being unsupervised I dont think you have much to legitimately complain about. I'm sure it's irritating but they are entitled to use their garden as they please really.

LighthouseSouth · 27/07/2018 15:41

if you've never spoken to her about it, try anon call to social services and hopefully she won't suspect you.

catlady34 · 27/07/2018 15:42

Wait till night, then send one of your kids over the fence with a knife to pop it.

CaptainApollo · 27/07/2018 15:43

Throw a poo in it at night. Repeat every night until it's gone

UrghBullTee · 27/07/2018 15:44

Throw a poo 😂

Lemontart25 · 27/07/2018 15:45

So you also have 65ft to play with? Just move your table & let them crack on. Obviously the neglect issues if infact that is what is happening is entirely different. But the pool is really only afew weeks of annoyance. So for the sake of good relations long term I would pick my battles.

CocoaGin70 · 27/07/2018 15:47

You need a long sharp object OP to lean over the fence at night and POP - problem sorted.

MulberryPeony · 27/07/2018 15:47

Yup, a mystery floating turd should do it!

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 27/07/2018 15:48

Is it inflatable? If so sneak out at night and puncture it with a skewer. If it's one of those solid-sided ones you could probably still get through with a knife and a bit of effort. (I am grumpy with this heat, does it show?)

BlackWatchBelle · 27/07/2018 15:49

Blow dart at night at the point furthest from your fence so it doesn't point the finger at you

LakieLady · 27/07/2018 15:50

Throw a poo in it at night.

Fan-bloody-tastic!

ellendegeneres · 27/07/2018 15:50

I’m planning on putting my new 12footer by my neighbours- flattest part of the garden. Can’t wait! Luckily for me though, their kids are same age and will be likely be out in their pool at the same day time. I’d hate it if my neighbours fussed about that, although this has been a bit of a nudge, I’ll go out and chat with him next door in a bit and make sure he doesn’t mind where I put it.

The kids being left alone thing is a ss call

ineedwine99 · 27/07/2018 15:51

Why should OP move her table etc that was there first?!

Not sure your going to get anywhere with the mum but worth a shot to be neighbourly, not like your asking them to take it down, just move it a bit.
I think re noise dont' the council ask you to keep a log of incidents?

FannyFifer · 27/07/2018 15:51

This happened to my pal, lived in a four in a block, he was downstairs, the folk upstairs put a massive paddling pool right under his window.
Every kid in the neighbourhood in it, they were jumping out first floor window into it as well.
He punctured it overnight.

ellendegeneres · 27/07/2018 15:51

Also, please chuck a turd in it. Unless they have a cover, then just chuck a turd in there during the day.

The mysterious case of the flying poo, can see it in the fail now...

Happyhippy45 · 27/07/2018 15:55

Now it's full of water they're not likely to move it now. I think you'll have to move your table for the rest of this summer. It's not fair but it seems better than sitting indoors all day.
That's pretty horrible to live next to screaming and swearing children and adults.
Very worrying about the possible neglect.
turd in the pool. Grin Who's volunteering or will you all take turns?

OkMaybeNot · 27/07/2018 15:56

She leaves her 5yo in the care of a 12yo all day? With a swimming pool?

Aside from anything else, this is a safeguarding issue. You need to report it.

Original poster
DarkMoon · 27/07/2018 15:56

Yes we have 65ft of garden as well, however ours is not level in any place except our patio which we built for putting table an chairs on, and that part of our garden is the only bit with shade otherwise we would move it.

Her kids are definitely being left alone with 12 year old in charge.

Normal kids noise doesn't bother me, I've got enough kids of my own to know that, but the kids are constantly swearing and shrieking, but I've heard their mother enough times to know that's where they get it from.

Will probably report kids being left alone and going in the pool but she will know it's me.

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DarkMoon · 27/07/2018 15:59

Loving the poo suggestions Wink, we have lots of foxes round here, one may accidentally shit in her pool

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iloveredwine · 27/07/2018 16:04

Chuck a mars bar in!!!!

fourandnomore · 27/07/2018 16:08

It doesn’t matter if she knows it’s you to be honest, it’s more important those children are safe than keeping neighbourly relations I think. That is terrible she’s leaving them.

fourandnomore · 27/07/2018 16:08

Mars bar-perfect!

Lemontart25 · 27/07/2018 16:08

@ineedwine99

Why should OP move her table etc that was there first?!

Because she is the one complaining & I'm sure moving a full 15ft pool is quite impossible! So unless you suggest the neighbour empties the pool, moves it & then refills it. Which I am sure we would all agree is extreme & a massive waste of water especially at the moment. Then the easiest & most efficient solution is to make the best of a bad situation. Moving a table & afew chairs is hardly the end of the world- no matter who had it "there first" Hmm what a pathetic reason. Maybe the neighbour lived there first so would that excuse wash?!! Grin

At the end of the day showing willing to compromise first is always the best in cases like this before making demands. The summer is a short amount of time when thinking long term neighbour issues if this all gets out of hand.

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