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To feel sad DSD is back with her Mum?

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PoesyCherish · 27/07/2018 12:26

I know I probably am BU but still feel really sad. We see her for half the holidays. We had her for the first week and before I get home from work DP will have dropped her off at her Mum's for the second week and we'll see her again next Friday.

Our relationship hasn't always been really good but it's improved so much over the last year to the point where I love spending time with her and miss her when she's not around and she appears to enjoy the time we spend together (though who knows what really goes through the mind of a 6 year old!!) I say it hasn't always been great because I think it's been a big change for all of us me moving in (albeit 3 years ago now) as we're all quite introverted so learning to live together has been interesting and it's taken a while for the relationship to naturally develop to the point where it is now as I've been so careful to take things at DSD's pace.

I felt so sad this morning leaving for work and saying bye to her for the week to the point i just wanted to cry!! I'm being totally unreasonable aren't I??

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RedPandaBear · 27/07/2018 12:29

I think its lovely to see a positive step parenting post though.

Maybe arrange something special for when she's back next weekend? Something to look forward to?

helpbeforeimelt · 27/07/2018 12:29

Not unreasonable at all op.
I think it's lovely that you think so much of each other and have bonded.

Enjoy the time you guys have together but equally enjoy the time when she's not with you so you and dh can do couple things together Grin

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PoesyCherish · 28/07/2018 08:16

Maybe arrange something special for when she's back next weekend? Something to look forward to?

@RedPandaBear that's a good idea. She really enjoys swimming and hasn't been for a while so maybe we could do that next week.

Enjoy the time you guys have together but equally enjoy the time when she's not with you so you and dh can do couple things together

Thank you @helpbefofeimelt. We plan to go for a meal this evening. She goes to bed quite early at the moment (otherwise she gets super grumpy) so it'll be nice to not have to worry about being back in time for bedtime.

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onalongsabbatical · 28/07/2018 08:59

You've bonded with her good and proper. How lovely! Have a little cry if you need to. Not unreasonable at all OP.

ichifanny · 28/07/2018 09:02

That’s lovely , I love 5 and 6 year olds they are so full of fun and see the world on a lovely way .

user1493413286 · 28/07/2018 09:03

That’s lovely, I feel sad saying goodbye to DSD eow

ElsieMc · 28/07/2018 09:08

So nice to hear this op. You haven't pushed the relationship and are being rewarded by your lovely relationship with your dsd. She is a lucky girl.

MarthasGinYard · 28/07/2018 09:11

Maybe a special book you could read to her at bedtime next??

scarlettoftheseas · 28/07/2018 09:16

I'm completely with you. My stepson is 15 now and I genuinely enjoy being around him. We're very lucky as he only lives 5 minutes away so we see him near enough everyday, but he's gone away for two weeks with his mum and her side of the family. Feel a bit lost tbh!

Ynbu at all. It's always hard, but just think of how many years and adventures and fun you have to come Smile

strawberrisc · 28/07/2018 09:32

What a lovely thread. Real relationships don’t happen overnight, they happen with time. Yours sounds lovely. As a Mum with an ex who remarried I’m glad her Step-Mum looks after her so well when she’s in their home x

legoqueen · 28/07/2018 09:38

So lovely that you feel like this (although not the sad bit) - she's lucky to have such a caring Step-Mum...

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