Present lists- outdated?

[babyyorkie]

Does anyone else feel that wedding present lists are a bit cheeky? We have just received one for a wedding in September and all of the gifts on their list are soooo expensive. Is it considered rude to give a present that isn't on the list?

I am surprised the wedding gift list is still a thing. Aren’t they a hangover from. the days when a couple getting married would be setting up home together for the first time? That is very rarely the case these days.

Some still are setting up home for the first time.

I like them, though haven't seen one for a few years. I have given money at all recent weddings, as that is what the bride and groom preferred.

I had a list which I only sent to people who asked for it. It wasn't at a shop, as I didn't like the idea that people had to buy things from a particular place. My sister's phone number was at the bottom of the list and people rang her to check what was left and then ticked items off, to make sure that there was no duplication.

Some people chose things not on the list. They tended to be good friends who knew me well, and 25 years on some of those items are still in daily use, as is the dinner service that was on my list. Most of the nice glasses are rarely used, though, as they won't go in the dishwasher.

I always ignore them and did not have one myself

I always ignore them

Can I ask why ?
To my mind, the present (for whatever occasion, not just a wedding) ought to be something the receiver of the gift, wants to have.
If someone has indicated what they would like to have, I don't understand why you would think you know them better

I usually give a John Lewis voucher. I think wedding lists are grabby.

I don't get the point in ignoring them

I thought wedding lists were standard but even very posh weddings of very rich friends I've attended have had a full range of items on them from expensive (hundreds of pounds): I'm assuming for family or equally rich close friends to very cheap items (£5) e.g. you can buy single items that will be part of a set. I think it's very cheeky to have a list with nothing cheap on it.

If there's nothing in your price range I would do what PP does and go for JL voucher - can't go wrong.

I’ve not been to a wedding with a gift list in years! I’d actually find it quite charming to get an Argos list nowadays complete with Ali Baba linen basket, Eternal Beau crockery and Morphy Richards sandwich toaster. All the invitations state holiday/John Lewis/b&q vouchers or cold hard cash. Usually accompanied by a cheesy poem. Grabby buggers