I'm. On the fence here.
My brother and his dc mum split around 5 yrs ago.. For the record dc1,(10) isn't his but has brought him up from day one ( got with his mum when pg) always has him. Pays for him etc etc.and he has a dc 2 (9)
Over the yrs she has played sooo many games. Even to the point of saying he has been DV towards her in a sexual manner. Which is a blatant lie.. Which was proven by police..but he got put thro her lies
She's taken him to court to set him hours to see the dcs. Which she broke a week later because she realised it didn't suit her after all and she difnt have much free time.
She is so vile.. I can't express how much. (I used to like her and get on well)
My Bro is at breaking poi t as its a daily occurance that she causes hassle in some way.. When she can't get a reaction from him. She rings his DW.. Or me, my mum or whoever.
My Bro has now said he feels like cutting all contact even with the dc as its driving him insane.. Has made him so ill. And pay her CM. via their service rather thancash.
I have said he has to do what is best for the dc which I think would be to stay in their lifes. But on the other hand I can see him being pushed to do something dramatic that don't bear thinking about.
I think he will go one of two ways.. Either break Contact or go for full custody (sees don't alot that would be in his favour as such)
I know this isn't the case for many and in some cases, the NRP causes lots of hassle for the RP ( been there done that lol)
Just wondering if anyone has been in similar situations really? All I want to do is give him advice and help him