MIL

[leighdinglady]

Aibu to actually like my MIL? She's lovely. She respects our boundaries and privacy and loves her grandchildren. Seems I'm in the minority on MN!

Just wanted to give a shout out to all the MILs of nightmare daughter in laws!

I know some PIL can be a pain, but bloody hell, the threads on here has them as monsters.

This thread seems to be done about once a week

How original of you!

I don't particularly care for mine. She's not my sort of person. But we are courteous to each other and she is a fantastic mum and grandmother, she is kind and generous and my dp and children love her. Which is what matters.
Prediction. This thread will fill up with posts saying "well, you're lucky" and anecdotes, some seriously grim but most just showing that different people do things differently.

MN gives a skewed view because people come to AIBU to complain about difficult situations, not to talk about how great their MILs are. I don't doubt that some people really do have nightmare MILs - after all, the world is full of difficult arseholes and it would be weird if MILs were the exception to that. But AIBU isn't representative.

Of course you're not, most people get on fine with their MiL. I've never posted about my MiL because we have no major issues with her. In the same way I've never posted about DH as we ave a mainly happy relationship. The people who have issues are far more likely to cost for advice.

So you're complaining about complaints and requests for help, leighdinglady?

Not complaining just wanted the MILs on here to see they're not all negative threads. As people say , everyone is quick to complain but no one says when there's anything good.

Mine has very little to do with me. Not in a hostile way she just keeps her distance..... and due to reading threads on mumsnet about nightmare MILs I do actually really appreciate how little she gets involved. I could not deal with some of these MILs spoken about on here AT ALL.

I envy you. Well done for not ruining it.

AIBU is generally not a place for good stuff...js...

I think most have a mixed bag with in-laws.

I didn’t get on with mine. Partly because we’re just very different people and partly because I don’t think she approved of me from day one. I also think I had certain expectations (eg an involved grandparent or support when I was sick in hospital) but I accept that’s on me.
I have sons so will likely be a mil to dils one day, and I’m learning how I would like to behave (I know some wonderful grandparents) and from my own experience how I won’t behave.

Not complaining just wanted the MILs on here to see they're not all negative threads. As people say , everyone is quick to complain but no one says when there's anything good.

The same should be done for men/husbands/boyfriends then...many more threads complaining about issues with them than MIL's

If you want a good happy story, OP, well here's one.....

Divorced H and now she's ExMIL. Haven't seen hide of hair of her for 10 years. I live very happily ever after. Oh Yes.

The End.

Forums like this one are largely a collective of people with dysfunctional relationships, hence the very nature of the tone and content of the majority of the threads.

Oh mine is really annoying. Talks incessantly. Everything comes out as a question which is impossible to answer. If you try she doesn’t understand the answer, but it doesn’t matter because she moved onto the next question Approx 0.0001 seconds after the first. She doesn’t listen to anyone so can’t offer any emotional support, advice etc. She never really seems to understand anything, it’s like being with a toddler. Anyway it is what it is. She used to be evil but she’s changed since children cane along. She’s a good granny.

Oh is not that the sort of thread you wanted?

If this isn’t a goady thread then I don’t know what is. I’m willing to bet OP is a mil - and a bad one at that.

@sar501 what? I'm 33 and have a baby daughter, so no, not a MIL. How is it goady to say I like my MIL and think they get a bad rep? I appreciate some people have horrendous in laws, but I think MN is skewed and have seen lots of recent threads about them so wanted a bit of balance for any MIL out there reading. My feelings don't take away from those threads, so I'm not sure what your problem is?

I adored my mil. I could post loads of good stuff about her, but since she never caused me any issues, I don’t need to post about her.

My mother, on the other hand, is an absolute piece of shit, so not a good mil.