Yeah my parents always have weird reactions to news which would delight, or at the very least, be received with equanimity by other parents. I also dreaded telling mine and I cried all night with anxiety... I’m 36 🙄. For once, they confounded my expectations and were thrilled!
Not saying yours will surprise you, but maybe just stop hoping for anything different from them. I’ve realised lately that although my parents are great in some ways and I love them, they’re both a bit selfish and demanding, and they quite often ride roughshod over my feelings with their opinions. I used to hope that they would change, and try to make them; I’d argue, cajole, try to get them to see my point of view... all for nought. Ever since I stopped trying, and took a small step back and readjusted my expectations of them, they’ve stopped disappointing me. Maybe you could try the same?
It’s upsetting to know that our parents will never be all we would wish, but once you completely acknowledge that fact to yourself, you start to let go of the resentment, and the pain of not being accepted for who you are seems to lessen.
Sorry if that’s a bit garbled, it’s late and my baby never sleeps, so not do I! Huge congratulations on your pregnancy, see, I can say it even if they can’t 😄 x