How to feel happy?

7 replies

RoseGardenDreams · 26/07/2018 22:06

I'm not happy with life and to be honest, if it wasn't for my dd, I would seriously consider taking my own life.

I'm in the middle of retraining but feel no passion for anything anymore. I dread each day. I can't bear to think about doing this for another 50/60 years. I just think it's all pointless apart from very small, temporary highs - life is shit.

Sorry for the misery. I just can't see a way forward.

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Cupcakecafe · 26/07/2018 22:07

I'm sorry you feel that way, is there anyone irl you can talk to? Can you try to get a doctors appointment to discuss how you're feeling?

mushlett · 26/07/2018 22:09

I don’t have any advice but wanted to send some hugs 🤗
I think speaking to your GP is a good idea. I’m sorry you’re feeling so low xx

Wadewilson · 26/07/2018 22:14

Hugs op.
I don't really know what to suggest, but I agree with pp to see your gp.
I hope things are better for you soon.

JaneJeffer · 26/07/2018 22:15

What age is your DD?

EdinaMonsoon · 26/07/2018 22:16

I’m genuinely sorry to hear you feel this way but I think it’s really positive that you are talking here. I have experienced similar feelings & it’s awful. Like swimming through mud. Before I go any further, please consider calling the Samaritans. They won’t advise you but they will give you the space & time to go through how you are feeling - the power of doing this verbally can be very cathartic.

It sounds as though you feel you have little choice or control over your life. Is that a fair assumption? Is there an option to take a break from your studies/training & reflect on what you really want to do?

What support do you have?

In terms of being happy: I don’t believe it’s a destination or a fixed state. It’s about finding the contentment in the every day. On a basic level, feeling relaxed & pleased because you made your DD smile/spent time with her/your bed is made/kitchen is tidy/ all these little things are not nevessarily hugely important but for me I find these things part & parcel of contentment - that I can see my small successes as a parent & that I care enough about myself to take care of my home environment.

EdinaMonsoon · 27/07/2018 01:29

OP please keep talking. I hope you are ok.

WarPigeon · 27/07/2018 01:34

I will assume your around your 20’s, I felt like you once (6-7 years ago) and had a very young child at the time.

Have you been diagnosed with depression? After many years and finally going to the Dr’s and being prescribed loony pills I got myself straight.... and now am happy as fuck 😄

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