AIBU to think this is a bad friend?

[schooloftheair]

I have this friend, and I don't know if I am being unreasonable but it seems to me that everything is on her terms. She used to be a beautiful, friendly person. Nowadays for the majority of the time I feel that she just expects, expects, expects. She only phones me when things have gone wrong, making out that every problem she has is critical and implying that I am the only person that can help. It often turns out to be nothing. I drop everything to help her then she forgets she even asked me because another friend has stepped in. We arrange to do things and she makes excuses then she posts on Instagram pictures of her doing something else. I think she is depressed and very up and down, and part of me feels that I should support her even more but I can't take it any more. All the lies, drama and last minute cancellations. I feel totally used. She never even asks me how I am. Am I being selfish to think this person is a bad friend if she has emotional issues?

Friendships should be mutually beneficial. If they're not, regardless of the details, there's nothing wrong with ending them.

I would leave her to her own company for a while. Perhaps because you are so accessible, she obviously takes you for granted. Use the word 'NO' occasionally, she'll get the message.

What do you get out of this friendship OP? She uses you, she doesn't fulfil any promises. Back away, no need to have a big show down. Be unavailable, unfollow her on Facebook. Spend time with people who value your time and effort.

You are all correct, I must back away. I make myself too available because I am naive and unassuming.
What I get out of it is a friend that needs me. Call me stupid but that is what I have never had. But a friend who then ignores me until the next faux calamity and doesn't care about me is not a friend.
Thanks.