AIBU annoyed at OH

[NotSoThinLizzy]

So I just asked OH if he could have baby for a couple of hours every 2nd night so I could go to the gym and actually sort some of my shit out. His reply was well if I'm doing that then I want the house spotless and the dishes done and dinner waiting for him and baby fed his dinner in a tone that sounded spiteful.

It's almost like I have to pay (in chores) to do anything for myself and am i wrong to be annoyed?

YANBU. He's being a git.

No you are not being unreasonable. I would be fuming if this was my partner's response to me wanting to go out. Let alone the fact you are going to the gym, it's not like you are going out drinking every 2nd night.

Thats a nice thought a nice glass of wine 😂 haven't drank in two years due to baby.

He’s a knobhead. It’s like he’s doing you a favour when he’s just parenting.

Imo depends on the situation.

If you're a full time sahm and you're a bit useless (which his comment seems to try and imply) then working DP is within rights to expect some work to have been done in the time they were working, rather than coming home to tidy up, cook etc after a full day of work to facilitate extending your day of no work being extended to an evening visit to the gym (a luxury that costs money).

If (as I suspect) this isn't the case and he's making a big deal out of looking after own DC he's a CF.

I see what you mean but we take turns in doing the tidying washing ect just I do it with a baby following me undoing it all 😂 just on the days it's not my turn would be when I'm going. I'm wanting to get to gym as I have people who want to come with me so we can egg each other on. I do a massive deep clean every Monday so there isn't much mess to start with.

Then YANBU and he's a CF

What's the set up re work/chores OP?

CF?? Please let it mean what I think it means 😂

I'd just give him the baby and say bye... I did it with my DS when he was around 9 weeks old and my DH dealt with it. I only went for a drive and sat in my car about 15 minutes away but I was alone and it was quiet

Cheeky fucker

Cheeky F*er

😂 thank you

The mistake is asking! He is the child's parent too.

Don't know if it's mabye nervousness as he's never had DS by himself (He's 10 months old) but then again he's pretty useless when it comes to parenting anyways