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to have a word with my awful neighbour about her water usage?

53 replies

SerenaJoyWaterford · 26/07/2018 18:04

The woman who lives above me is an absolute fruitloop. She creeps around the close at all hours of the night fiddling with the communal lights, taping over the lock on the back door (???) and just generally being a busy body. She was the only woman in the building when we moved here (block of 6 flats) and it seems she has taken a particular dislike to having another woman in the building. We have never exchanged more than a hello but it's just the impression I get.

Everything is a competition with her. Not a single occasion passes by where I put my washing out or take my hoover into the close to tidy my doorstep up that she isn't 10 minutes behind me doing the exact same thing. I thought it was just coincidental at first but now it's outright annoying - can't I do anything without having a shadow creeping behind me?

I'm particularly annoyed at her today because of this awful heat we're having and she has put her washing machine on FOUR times. I know this because there is a very distinct bang when she slams the door shut and then a loud kind of gargle(?) noise that flows through the pipes as the machine fills with water, and then an hour later she is outside with the laundry.

Of course she is allowed to do laundry but she appears to be washing 3-4 items at a time, then 2 hours later another load, and another, and another. I should probably mind my own business and I'm prepared to be told to do so but I can't help letting it bother me. We've been advised to try limit water usage in this heat and yet she's completely taking the piss IMO. Her machine when spinning also rattles my entire kitchen and that makes it even more annoying!

Would I be unreasonable to speak to her about limiting her water usage or should I just mind my own? I know it's so trivial but with the constant rumbling noise above my head it's all I can think about!

OP posts:
Nanna50 · 26/07/2018 18:45

YABU to call her a fruit loop and thinking someone else’s water usage is any of your business. And who hoovers their doorstep?

user1510568216 · 26/07/2018 18:50

Irritating & there's obviously a lot more to it but I'd let this go. We don't have a water shortage but I admit when I know it's going to be nice I wash things unnecessarily just because I love it coming off the line. We don't get nice weather where I live very often so I take full advantage.

spugzbunny · 26/07/2018 18:52

Unless you've actually looked at her washing, how do you know she's only doing a few bits at a time? She could be doing her sheets or towels etc

pilates · 26/07/2018 18:57

I wouldn’t that’s how neighbour disputes start.

SerenaJoyWaterford · 26/07/2018 18:57

To reply to a few comments,

@Nanna50 If you read my last comment I apologised for the unnecessary name-calling. As for the hoovering (not sure why you're trying to shame me for something irrelevant) our close is carpeted and we are each responsible for our own section.

@spugzbunny It's a communal line outside.

@user1510568216 Thanks for your understanding comment - there is absolutely a lot more to it but not worth going into as this thread has taken a direction I never intended it to and that's why I have requested removal.

OP posts:
ShirleyPhallus · 26/07/2018 18:58

What’s wrong with the phrase fruit loop?

Bezm · 26/07/2018 19:00

It's a derogatory term for someone with mental health problems.

tenthavenue · 26/07/2018 19:08

Your close is carpeted??? Shock

rainforesttreeswinging · 26/07/2018 19:12

Be nice, drop in a pot plant and talk to her, she might turn out to be the nicest person. You never know when you might need a neighbour stay on good terms.

takenitall · 26/07/2018 19:18

You're obsessed !!! Behave

ShirleyPhallus · 26/07/2018 19:21

GIVE HER A CREME EGG

Brazenhussy0 · 26/07/2018 19:21

this thread has taken a direction I never intended it to and that's why I have requested removal.

Grin Sorry OP, but you're coming across a wee bit snowflake-y. Neighbours can be annoying at times but she isn't doing you any harm. Leave her be.

And as for this -
She was the only woman in the building when we moved here (block of 6 flats) and it seems she has taken a particular dislike to having another woman in the building. We have never exchanged more than a hello but it's just the impression I get.

Confused You're the one who sounds a bit bonkers. If you haven't said more than 'hello' to each other how can you possibly come to the conclusion she doesn't like you because you're a woman?

UglyCathKidstonBag · 26/07/2018 19:28

but that's all beyond the point now and some comments are absolutely going off track so I have requested the thread to be closed. Thanks all for the input.

Really? Confused

Polly2345 · 26/07/2018 19:28

If she's playing thumping loud music I'd be complaining to her about that. The washing machine you just need to let go.

Bluetrews25 · 26/07/2018 19:31

I can see why she could be annoying to you. but please say nothing as it will inflame the situation. You might be better to move out, if that is a do-able option.

LePolyBag · 26/07/2018 19:31

GIVE HER A CREME EGG

Grin
MyFriendFlicker · 26/07/2018 19:33

Her washer makes your whole kitchen vibrate?
It's not the neighbour that's the problem it's the building.

ReservoirDogs · 26/07/2018 19:36

4 loads isn't much anyway - bedding, whites/lights, darks and delicates. If you do towels too that'd be 5!

Melliegrantfirstlady · 26/07/2018 19:39

She’s a fruit loop Hmm

Pot kettle

User183737 · 26/07/2018 19:40

Ffs keying someones care is hardly a diagnostic criteria for a mental illness
Yabu

quizqueen · 26/07/2018 19:43

The only real solution here is for one of you to move! I think people who live in any sort of 'block' accommodation are always going to experience some sort of annoying issues.

Smidge001 · 26/07/2018 19:50

What do you mean, your close is carpeted?? Confused

Seriously?! You have outdoor carpet? WTAF? I want to see this!

64BooLane · 26/07/2018 19:54

Is it just me, or is asking for a thread to be deleted because it’s gone “off track” a tiny bit precious not how MN generally works?

Half of Classics consists of threads where the comments went off track.

RustyBear · 26/07/2018 19:57

I think the word ‘close’ is also used for a communal area/corridor in a block of flats in some parts of Scotland.

crimsonlake · 26/07/2018 19:58

Why would you even consider challenging anyone over this, what makes you think yo have the right? It is absolutely none of your business whatsoever. I think you should be looking to change your attitude and not spend time getting worked up over things which have nothing to do with you.

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