I’m looking for a bit of perspective on this ‘issue’ that’s come up between a friend and I. I’ll try to bullet it so it’s easy to get the gist.
My daughter (MD10) and friends daughter (FD9) were FaceTiming today.
MD asked FD is she could come to play this afternoon
FD said she would come over after she was dressed (being lazy I suspect!)
15mins later, FD texts MD to say her mum said no, she can’t come and “she knew why”. FD said she told her mum she didn’t know why...
Had taken MD & FD out earlier this week and mentioned to friend that FD was welcome to come round Thurs to play if she wanted
Felt like this suggestion was fobbed off as friend kind of walked off without saying much
Whilst FaceTiming again after the ‘no’, FD read a message to MD from her mum saying “is it (my daughters name) or Grace (Me) that’s texting” - I overheard this and I hadn’t been messaging FD (odd to think why I would on friends part?)
Now the above scenario is not exclusive to today and in all honesty, I have no idea why my friend seems to have issues with her daughter playing at my house with MD. I have an older son who has problems going on and does swear somewhat which I know she hates but I deal with it and it ends, but he’s away with Gran and friend knows this.
I can’t pinpoint what the issue is and knowing that my friend knows my son is away, that my husband isn’t home at the minute; I can only presume that actually, her issue is with me and that she doesn’t actually like me, which confuses me as she’s happy to trust me to take her child out, take her to school when needed, use my stuff, vent to me about home/marriage/work/life and tell me quite intimate stuff her husband wouldn’t want shared so I’m at a loss.
To add, my friend is the sort of person who doesn’t like to explain things but can be abrupt in her explanations or cryptic if she doesn’t want to explain. I’ve asked her to explain things before, she just fobbed me off and drove off. I’m now at a point where I’m wondering if I should back away completely from this friend, ghost her perhaps, unless I get an explanation as to the issue, but I don’t know if that’s unreasonable? I’d appreciate some perspective/advice anything as I love her to bits but I feel so frustrated.
Sorry this is long, I’m trying to include as much info as possible so as not to be vague but not be too descriptive.