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To be upset by this

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Rosie342 · 26/07/2018 14:55

I was the first one out of my group of friends to have a baby, we were all very young and as a result I rarely saw any of them. This I expected and though it upset me I just cracked on and was the best mother I could be to my child. Fast forward nearly ten years and another child and a pregnancy for me and friends with children the same age as my youngest and I'm still on my own friendship wise. We talk often via phones and Facebook, if I arrange a meet up it goes ahead but these friends NEVER contact me first to arrange something. I just feel I'd be completely forgotten if I don't make all the effort and honestly it's so depressing. I constantly see them out and about with each other or other friends and their children but never am I or my children invited or asked to do anything. I feel sad for myself and sad for my children who are missing out as well. Maybe I'm just being daft and should just contact and arrange to meet up but I just wish my friends would arrange something with me off their own backs.

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CheeseYesPlease · 26/07/2018 15:16

I understand if they are busy or if it was an
Impromptu arrangement but if they purposely left you out it can be hurtful. Maybe try reaching out and see what their response would be then you can decide whether to not it's worth having them around?

Rosie342 · 26/07/2018 15:30

@cheeseyesplease it's not that they are constantly avoiding me, if I contact them they are fine arranging something it's just that it always takes me contacting them and no one ever contacts me first

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AlmostPerfect1955 · 26/07/2018 16:35

It’s best to be upfront, talk to the one you are closest to and ask her why you aren’t included. Ask her to be honest. Then at least you will know.

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