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struggling with extended fam (in-laws)

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GemGem97 · 26/07/2018 14:02

hi all, AIBU for feeling like i want to scream?

I struggle with anxiety and come from a very private, small family. OH family incredibly close knit, family group chats and updates on every little inconvenience in their lives 24/7, every evening is spent together etc.

Recently, i am struggling massively, they are all really lovely and helpful and im not trying to bash them, but I can't take it. As they are all very up-front and big personalities, they scare me... I can't deal with the 'banter' and explosive episodes that i am sometimes in the middle of, the kind of people that will pick up on anything you say that they dont agree with, and they will debate with you. OH is understanding of this as he knows how i am so he doesn't push me to get involved but I really don't know how much longer i can cope with it - i feel like im suffocating sometimes?? maybe i take some comments to heart too much but as someone struggling with MH, i feel they should try be a bit more understanding of this. ive only lived with the in-laws for about 2 months so maybe its just me adjusting but I'm worried i wont stop feeling like this.

Anyone else have any similar stories that might make me feel a bit less alone in this?

thanks!

OP posts:
peachgreen · 26/07/2018 16:33

Don't live with your in-laws. It's unbearable for pretty much everyone, no matter how nice they are. I love my in-laws to bits but I'd go mad if I had to live with them.

coconutpie · 26/07/2018 16:48

Move out! Why on Earth are you living with the in laws?

Emotionaleater · 26/07/2018 17:04

You feel the exact same as 99% of people would. Is there any reason you cannot move out?

Takfujimoto · 26/07/2018 17:07

You are living in their home, you can not expect people to modify their basic personalities to your liking, offensive behaviour yes, but nothing you've said reads that way tbh, you just clash, nothing wrong with any of you, so best to not live with them.

Maelstrop · 26/07/2018 17:18

Save hard, move out.

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