...to not allow my baby to go in my aunt's car without me?

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my ds is 10 mo and all the rellies are coming over the next few days in preparation for his christening. this includes my aunt who i have a few issues with - it's a long story, nothing bad, but i don't trust her with my son as she is basically a bit like a 2 year old in an adult's body when it comes to acting responsibly. anyhoo, my mum is taking ds for the afternoon on saturday while dh and i prepare the house for the party on sunday. aunty x will now be with her and they want to take him out in the car, with the seat, which neither of them know how to use. i am not happy to do this, but how do i tell them without tantrums as my mum basically thinks the sun shines out aunties arse. i will not be letting them take him in the car but would like to prevent it without causing major offence. any suggestions welcome, particularly from those with experience in diplomacy!

can you not show your mum how to use the seat - i assume she has looked after your DS before?
or send them out for a walk in the pushchair so they don't have to use the car?

Why can you not just install the carseat?

10 omnth olds notoriously clingly - child willscream blue murder non stop if y6ou are not there.

If you're mum's there at all times and you obviously trust your ds with her (I'm assuming she also takes him out in the car?) then everyhting should be ok shouldn;t it? As far as the car seat goes I would starp it in yourself to make sure it's in the car properly and make your mum have a few goes at practising strapping your ds in and out until you're happy with the way she does it

ta for replies. my mum has never used seat as she doesn't drive and is notoriously bad with anything the least bit fiddly. they honestly couldn't do it up! i mean this even if i put it in the car! mum takes him in the pushchair all the time and he loves her to bits so i might suggest that. i will remember the "clingy " thing for future excuse making though!

hmm Nicky,
wouldnt it be lovely for them to have wine and catch up with you in the house bfore the stampede of all the other rellies?

Oh just don't let her.

Your baby, your hangups, your rules. I wouldn't have let my 10 month old in any of my insane relatives' cars either. Pretend he's ill or teething or not had enough sleep so is extra grizzly. Any excuse.

Yes you are probably being unreasonable btw, but who cares, you're entitled to be.

It could be worse, nicky. My father is a terrible driver .. I'm stupefied that he's still alive and that other people who've shared the highway with him over the last forty years are alive as well.

Ohhh, he can fit the car seat ... and he can strap my ds into it with great aplomb. But after that ... Oh shit!

I would take Colditz's comment on board (pardon the pun) and have a great Christening

did someone say wine! mmmmmm!
thanks all. have decided to opt for the pushchair so they can still take him out bu ti know he'll be safe. you can choose your friends....!

Know how you feel...except I'm usually afraid my Mum will break the pushchair ...not technically minded bless her!

Seriously, 10 months old is very little to be out of range iyswim...I would be happier with a pram walk than a car trip, as I'd know they were not too far away SHOULD Ds need me - and you never know when they will at that age.

Good luck!!

I think YAB(ALB)U. Would you let him go with just your mother? If so, then you should let him go.

The carseat is a different thing though. Some carseats are tricky to do up (I have 2DS, and I've only just now learnt how to do up DS2's seat (the same one DS1 had...)), and if they can't do it up themselves to bring him home then they shouldn't be "allowed" out with him in the car - let them walk though - it will be good for everyone.