I know I’m being unreasonable but can’t help the way I feel ...
Before I got married I had a good relationship with all my relatives.. I managed to ignore everyone’s mistakes and faults and just saw each ones strengths and loved everyone in a unique way..
When I got married... my husband is a very opinionated guy... he seems to like people but has too much attention to detail and can point out everyone’s flaws which I wouldn’t otherwise see...
At the beginning I used to be very defensive ... but I naturally kept everyone at a distance because I felt that I didn’t know how to put boundaries with everyone in a way they can respect.. but I respected and loved them
I managed to convince my husband not to be judgemental and so he finally stopped holding a binocular and started to get on with everyone ..
Really well.... really really well... to a point where I feel uncomfortable with how close he is to my relatives .. to a point where I feel my personally boundaries are violated where now my relatives are really aware of my life updates and personal details which I feel insecure about sharing
I feel I should be happy my husband is on friendly terms with my relatives ... finally.. but I really am not .. he went the other extreme ..
I feel exposed ... it is difficult to get my husbands to keep minding his own business .. difficult to keep my relatives minding their own business .. and so I feel like the combination of both results in violation of my own privacy and peace ..
Hope I made sense ..
Judge away...
My mum thinks I’m wanting to control my husband and being a control freak... I’m just here wanting peace .
My relatives have become so friendly with my husband that some of them make arrangements with him to come over and “forget” to inform me... in fact , he even forgets.. it bugs me .. it shouldn’t should it ?