Long story but I'll try to keep it short.
I have a 7 DD with my ex partner. He and his family are racist, not to the extent of abusing people, but they do use racist words and although this wasn't the reason we split it was a contributing factor
For example, when I went to his family home, where he lives with his parents and older brother, there would always be a racist joke or comment made on a regular basis
For background, my two aunties have had children that are mixed race, one who was killed because of his gang relation, so as a family we have never used or insinuated any form of racism, plus we weren't brought up like that. Grandparents were Italian and also suffered racism in the 1950s.
A few weeks back, me, exp and DD were travelling to an event and were listening to Kiss FM, a rap song came on that we sang along to, and in the break my exp made up his own rap that contained the N word.
I was furious, shouted him down and told him to never use that language if front of us ever again. He went quite and looked ashamed, I thought I had made my point clear.
Tonight, my DD and I are discussing our holiday to Egypt, who we'll meet, what we'll do etc and are very excited as it's only 2 sleeps away.
My DD then comes out with this.
" My Dad said I'm not to listen or take notice of anyone who is black or brown"
As you can expect, I'm furious, I tell her off and possibly put the fear of god in her regarding what will happen if I ever hear her speak like that again.
I know it's from his family, she couldn't and wouldn't make that up.
So AIBU in that I've text him to tell him that if I ever hear anything remotely similar from her, I will stop contact with him and his racist family.
I'm fuckin livid
He hasn't replied.