To want to act younger than 47

[Cheto]

Festival at weekend , DH doesn't want to go , best friend and her DH don't want to go , they always act older more boring than me ... do I get a new husband and friends ? Do I need to grow up ? I'm not ready to take up knitting yet , but this seems to be happening more often

Go on your own, I'm sure there'll be lots of folks on their own, happy to meet up.
I'm at a festival this weekend. I've just dyed my hair a very vivid colour. I'm older than you!

I don’t think it’s boring to not want to spend a ridiculous amount of money to hear completely wasted musicians playing badly in this horrendous heat but I’m only 32 so maybe I’m just too young to get it.

@DieAntword well I loosely use the term festival , it's more a couple of groups playing on a beach ..but I really wanna go, but so not brave enough to go alone

I'm 49 and have decided I'm not going to attempt festivals any more. I've only ever enjoyed one, when I was 25 and loved all the bands that were playing - mild enjoyment of three bands plus active dislike of 2 and indifference to 5 doesn't add up to fun in the mosh pit, plus I dislike both sunstroke and trench foot. Don't take drugs and can't have more than two drinks without falling asleep. If you really think you will love it, then of course go but why not just have a party?

@annandale I get what you're saying but in general I think I just feel everyone else is ready to just visit garden centres and drink noice wine, I just feel a bit lost tbh

This is interesting to me as I'm 45 and still have a few friends who like doing the same things as you OP....and I graduate towards the friends who prefer quieter things to be honest.

How can you enjoy loud events filled with pissed people? It seems terrible to me! The idea of going outside and drinking from plastic glasses and being around a load of loud people....no!

Why do you need to be brave to go on your own? What are you scared of?

You are right! There’s enough time for garden centres when you are truly old. Find some fun new friends and let rip.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Went to a BBQ this weekend, no big deal but was 'advertised' as we've got a sitter, grownup drinking time after 5. Everyone went home at 9.30..... I'm 37....

I still love gigs and random weekends away. I'll come!

I’m with you OP. 47 year old here who still loves festivals and dancing outside till 3am.

I hope to be doing it in my dotage. If I can find any similar friends!

Go to the dancing beach!!

With you too OP. I'm 54, dh is 58 and lots of our friends are older.Really nice but older. Sometimes I just want to have fun. Well, lots. DH likes the boring bit Yawn.

Well I live in wales .. so if anyone is free at weekend

Maybe it just sounds like a crap festival to your OH and friends? Nothing much catches my eye these days. Festivals in the 90s seem to have loads of really great, big bands. The NME was huge

It seems like a lot of the “festivals” advertised these days are tribute acts to those that headlines festivals in the 90s! A lot of mediocre gigs put on these days, I feel, and for a lot of money. So maybe it’s not the type of activity itself that is the issue but the specific bands . If there are only 3 then you have to like them all really to make it worth your while paying, making the journey there, getting babysitters etc

@CurlyhairedAssassin I think the festival thing is a bit of a misnomer.. it just seems to be me that always wants to do stuff , friends and DH seem quite happy to just drink at home alone watch tv etc... I just want to do stuff , it's always me that looks for events etc, I just feel like they tolerate me and would rather not bother

46 here.
Spent my carefree younger days at reading, glastonbury etc Had dc in my late 20s and continued to go to glastonbury with them in tow until they hit school age and it was no longer feasible
We're actually off to a festival tomorrow, the dc are now teens and great fun now they can stay up late and really enjoy it all. Miraculously they are happy to been seen with me (even after too much beer!)
Mind you we are staying in a premier inn rather than camping, that's something that has changed as I get older. I can't deal with festival camping anymore, yet the younger me loved it!

@Cheto I'm N.Wales but seems far too cool for a gog event. More like a trendy southern Cardiff thing

@Pinklady11 Anglesey

@Pinklady11 ok I've bigged it up , it's actually 2 groups on a beach which to us is a festival

I’m 52 and I’m
Going to a festival next month with my kids.
Could you look on social media for some people to go with?

Oh I assume festivals are for kids like my 19 year old dds going to oh Winchester in 3 weeks and telling me there’s a specific dress code for each festival. So the Cornwall one was hippy and this one is more designer dress!??? Yep all bollocks

And for older people who just like music and don’t mind kids

like you op

Hope you follow the specific dress code or your middle aged arse will be marked.

I can’t think of anything more boring than a gathering of teenagers and middle aged crisis but then again why not. Enjoy op.

46 here and regularly go to gigs and festivals. Usually by myself as I am single. I think it's different to go on your own when it's that or stay at home by yourself but I actually prefer it now with not having to worry about whether someone else is having a good time - but that's just my single life in general .
Go.

@Ohyesiam contrary to what this post seems I'm actually quite shy and only like the company of a very few people , I know , I'm a bit odd

I would love to be brave enough , less self conscious to go on my own, I'm in awe of people that do that

But those very few people might be lurking on social media waiting to meet you!

@Cheto Chwarae Teg only an hour or so away