My mum is now late 70s. She worked part time when my sister and I were growing up. Household chores wise she did the typically gender female roles and my dad did the bloke stuff. Now they’re retired she expects my dad to contribute more in the house which I think he should and she moans about him.
For context I have three kids. Two have disabilities, the youngest severely and has barely been in school think 9-12pm and that’s just recently. I also work 20 hours from home a week. My dh is off this week whilst I am working my dh washed up and ironed. My mum thinks this is wonderful. I’m trying to get my husband to do more. Everything for the kids falls onto me. Their health issues, appointments, education, everything. My mum thinks I shouldn’t moan and as a mother should just handle it and get on with it. This year has been dire. Illegal exclusions from school for my son, I never knew when the school would call me to pick him up. Its been horrible. But it’s like my mum thinks my husband deserves a medal. When he goes to work he can just focus on work. My work and kids never stops. AIBU to think my mum supporting a stereotypical view of women’s roles is unhelpful?! She laughs when I say she’s fuelling gender roles.