AIBU - to invite new neighbours for drinks?

[careermumofone]

I've just moved into a new build house on a development where about 30 houses have recently been built.

I'd like to get to know the neighbours better (I'm new to the area) so thought about inviting the people in the 10 or so houses nearest to me for drinks one Saturday afternoon.

Do you think that's a nice gesture, or does it make me look a bit pushy/desperate to make friends?!

I’d love that.

I think it's lovely, I'd go if you invited me. But make it clear what the times are so 5-6 or something otherwise you'll be stuck with them all niggt.

id love that!!

I think it's a great idea and second the idea about giving a time slot but also make it easy for them to refuse in case they just don't want to do it

I think its a lovely gesture. My friend does this whenever she moves into a new house, and throws christmas parties for all the neighbours. You will always get a few people waving their social anxiety in your face, but basically, you're not issuing a 3-line whip, you're just asking people for drinks. I think its great. I would definitely come along. I like meeting new people.

We moved into a second hand new build and immediately threw a house warming party that went on till 2am. I had 11 marvellous years in that street!!

Do it!

It's a lovely gesture and I'd be grateful for the invitation but I'm a bit anti social so probably wouldn't go, however I wouldn't want you to be offended so I'd make sure you knew I was nice!

Great idea.

There’s no downside.

They turn up, you meet your neighbours, you may even make a friend.

No one turns up. You’ve at least tried, you won’t kick yourself for not.

You will always get a few people waving their social anxiety in your face
Such a charming way of putting it. Or as Mumsnetters say - did you mean to be so rude?

I’d love this! I wanted to meet the neighbours when we first moved in, but no one stopped by to introduce themselves. I was new to the country so wasn’t sure what was socially appropriate and didn’t go around knocking on doors myself.

Lovely idea but second the start/finish times just in case you get stuck with bores. Sure it will b fine

VanillaSugar

Did you move away for rehab purposes

Yep! Do it! I did it and it was very successful.

We did this when we moved in and have great relationships with (most ) of our neighbours.

If you hosted and I couldn’t make it I would pop round to let you know how kind I thought you were and would drop off some wine for the festivities too.

No DH was relocated with his job and my social life has hit the doldrums ever since. This is why I'm on Mumsnet so much

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We've just moved to a new place but there are 4 houses in a cul de sac and 2 neighbours don't get on, which is why we haven't organised a housewarming party yet.

Definitely do it. We moved into a new street and lots of this went on. We had the best neighbours. We even went so far to have an annual street party with bouncy castle and BBQ etc. We moved 3years ago and still get invited back every year. This year is the 10th Anniversary and we will defines go. We had a street FB page and people would do ad hoc things from time to time. It's snowed so let's light a chimea and drink shots etc.

I would love that too!

It's a lovely idea but I personally wouldn't go. I like being friendly with my neighbours but keeping to myself, but that's just me.

Good idea. Just after we moved in our neighbour invited us round for Christmas drinks and we were very happy to be asked. We just had the annual cul-de-sac summer party. It's a lovely friendly community and all the kids play together.

Thanks everyone, glad most of you think it's a nice idea (and you've convinced my husband!). Let's see how it goes...