I'm booked in for an elective section so know the date.
I received a message from my aunty this morning who lives about an hour away from us to say her, my uncle and my 2 teenage cousins will either be coming to visit me on the day I have baby or the day after.
I don't want this. The only visitors I want in the hospital is my mum and dad, mother in law and our dcs. My sister and dh brother are also welcome but know they most likely will not visit until we are home and settled. I know I'm going to be in pain. And I know I'll be emotional. This will be my 3rd dc and 3rd c section so I know what to expect.
Also, dh has an older teenage daughter but due to where she lives (about an hour away) and the fact the baby will be born during back to school week in September, it's very unlikely she will be able to meet her new sibling until that weekend so ideally I want to hold off with other visitors until then so she doesn't feel left out - like everyone has seen the baby but her. Dh is really hoping to go and pick her up but again, it all depends on timings etc. Dsd is well aware and is happy to wait until the weekend.
The problem is, my aunty will take offence big time when I tell her I'd rather wait until we are more settled for visitors. She's fallen out with the majority of family on her side over silly little things and whenever we do speak, it's all about who has offended her most recently. So that's going to make me prime target. And like I say, it's back to school week and my aunty and family have extremely busy weekends so I'm not sure they would have the time to visit at any other point.
I guess I'm just frustrated at the message more than anything. She didn't ask me if they could come. It was they are coming hopefully the day the baby is born - which is a definite no and I will message her to explain I have no idea what time the baby will be born and when I'm out of recovery so that probably will not work.
We aren't even that close to be honest and I do find my aunty quite hard to deal with at times. She's very much 'me me me' all the time and I'm just not sure I'll be in the mood for it. She's married to my dads brother so not technically related.
I just feel there's more important people that need to see the baby first who won't be able too straight away. That's me being blunt and probably being a bit of a bitch.
However....I am very grateful that they want to come and visit and willing to put the effort in and I feel bad that I feel this way!
Am I just being a miserable, emotional, heavily pregnant and fed up of the heat lady?