How’s this for CF

[Squarepeg29]

DH’s family are reasonably well off, but most of them are tight as hell, and are always on the scrounge. Money is their only topic of conversation. DH is as generous as the day is long, was a constant target for their money grabbing ways (his fault, I know) until his awful wife put a stop to it.

Anyhow, we met while working overseas. Got married quite soon after and have been very happy. We’ve had to bat off loads of scrounging CF over the years - I could write a book.

After marrying we decided to get a mortgage and buy a house in UK ready for our return. FIL (PIL are better off than we are) got wind of this so had a serious conversation with DH which involved us buying their house BUT they continue to live in it in perpetuity!! They didn’t let it drop either, we had follow up phone calls to see if we’d “made up our minds yet”.

A few years later he was trying to get DH to buy his car BUT - you’ve guessed it - FIL would continue to keep and use it!

These days we keep our distance as you can imagine.

ShumpaLumpa - Here it is. It's on page 24, but if you've never read the thread before (or even if you have), I can heartily recommend setting aside several hours and reading the whole thing. You can resolve to read a few at a time, but you'll find yourself hooked - it's a very strong contender for Best Thread Ever! Whatever you do, DO NOT miss Mexican House Thief!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3042304-Regale-me-with-Cheeky-Fucker-stories?pg=1&messages=25

FIL is currently trying to get DH to buy his house. His reasoning is that he doesn't want his wife (not DH's Mum) DC to inherit his house. He has form for this - until recently he had an agreement that DH's DM, his ex, make him the beneficiary of her will, and he in turn assured her she was the benefactor of his - even though he is married to another woman! I encouraged DH to have a word with her - not because I have any interest in her will, I'd rather she spent every penny enjoying her life or left it to charity. I just think FIL is a CF and has manipulated and lied to her for too many years.

My dP has only recently suggested that he sell his car, and use mine to drive to work every day. It doesn't seem to have occured to him that it's MY car and although I don't need it every day, I do need it sometimes. And while he'd be better off, I'd lose my car!

And his Dsis's exMIL - who had 5 kids, but (in exchange for bringing them into the world) charged them each several hundred £ a month; not rent or anything, just for her to live on.

Im really glad your such an awful wife op

Why on earth do they trying it's a good idea for you to buy their house and car....and then let them have it?

Have you asked them that?

What is their response?

Surely they can't come up with a decent enough response for that

"The best ' CF 'stories" would be a great mumsnet book to bring out at Christmas, just collating all the greatest CF'ery that has been mentioned on here.

I'm sorry OP, but that made me laugh.

May I put in my order for a pair of Louboutins and a Hermes Birkin? Tell DH that I'll use them in perpetuity, but that you, his 'awful wife', can have them when I'm dead.

Tartyflette:
They clearly have no boundaries when it comes to material items.

Absolutely, we’ve had issues with BIL’s sticky fingers in the past - caught him red handed with an unusual and pricey item in his car boot. DH saw the item and commented he had one exactly like that. Yes, says BIL, it is yours, as he shuts the boot and leaves!

JohnnyKarate I feel a connection with you!

Just out of interest, has the rot spread throughout the whole family or are your sibling in-laws any better?

My CF story is tame compared to some Ive read on here but it riled me for months!
I had been out with my friend and the kids stopped for petrol on way back, asked girls if they wanted a drink, bottles were £1.40 or two for £2
Got back to car and said, I think Ill get a drink too
Friend said oh can you get me one too, so went off, bought twp more, and she gave me 60p
When I queried the missing 40p, she said oh well you were buying one anyway so its just the difference I need to pay!

Do CF’s think they are being reasonable and normal?

Yes. They are selfish to the core and so what's Best For Me is the best because I'm the only one who really matters. You can't argue with it either. They 100% believe their needs, their wants, their inconveniences, their pains outweigh everyone else's. It's like other people aren't people, more of a disposable audience/supply chain. In my experience anyway.

Squarepeg29 we have an 8 year age gap with my sibling in-laws and they are younger so feel we may have it all to come because they already push the boundaries with meals and days out etc. We've vowed to not go on holiday with them again after we paid for the villa upfront and never got the money back, rookie error on our behalf.

SIL is very grabby but can also be very generous and I find myself swerving from loving her dearly to thinking are you the same person very often. She is only 20 and has confided in us about how toxic she finds her home environment. So I know she struggles with this.

BIL is golden boy. Last month we were being pressured into lending him money so he could buy a car which he would pay back over 4 years was about £9,000 he wanted. He's 18 and works one day a week. Sure we would have seen that money again! Thinking about it now it's probably why FIL wanted the £20k.

The best laugh is they moan relentlessly about their own parents who are definitely cheeky fuckers and then behave in the exact same way.

Oh I love the requests for large amounts of money. I suggest they go to financial institutions and point out if they can definitely pay it back then what's the problem.

Mostly I have selective mishearing though. I don't hear direct requests for money or even heavy hints. I must be a bit dim or something because I tend to respond to those requests with vague sympathetic noises about yes times are hard aren't they oh well I'm sure you'll sort it out eventually.

I'm like a politican who answers the question he wishes he were asked instead of the actual question.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Thanks for the link! The thread title is familiar so I must have read these before but I don't recognise the stories in page 24 so obviously I need to go back and read the whole thread. That's my afternoon gone!

Can I please add one?

A fairly new friend was expecting a new child,
They had a baby shower where they sent out an extensive list of baby gifts no problem we thought, very normal!

The week after they come to me, tell me they think they’re going to buy a new car cos the one they have is boring. When the baby arrives, they don’t want any gifts for them, but they want their friends and family all to club together for a deposit on a car. Only a little VXR he said, it would really be for the baby, much nicer for him to be driven around in...
I scoffed because I thought they were joking. He said well, when we get married then our friends and family could pay off the final balloon payment, see us into married life without any debt on the car.

I don’t know which face I pulled.

We had similar but when we saved enough to buy a house it was decided by MIL and her brother that DH (I’m ignored even though the deposit £ was mostly mine) would buy his grandmother’s council house (right to buy) and the brother would live in it as the grandmother was going into a home.

It was wrong (maybe even illegal?) on so many levels, least of all we lived 400 miles away!

hungryhippo90

That reminds me of the Royle family episode where they ask for 200 Benson & Hedges for the baby!

The biggest CF I ever encountered was my ex’s parents, my ex and I had a baby that he’s never met but I was still taking the baby to see ex’s family so they could still have a relationship. One day his mother suggested I let them keep the baby but it’s he ok as I could visit on weekends! One of the reasons we no longer see them. 🙄

Nalaking that is absolute madness.

OMFG @Nalaking What did you say to that?!?!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll thankyou, first time I've seen one of my threads being suggested and it means I've got 2 new pages of CFerry to read though

Bloody love your username as well I've got a t-shirt with "sex and drugs and sausage rolls" on

@TellMeItsNotTrue - Glad I was able to help in some very small way

Love the t-shirt - keeping with the Ian Dury theme, seeing somebody wearing that would DEFINITELY be a Reason To Be Cheerful!!

@hungryhippo90

That’s brilliant!
I knew a girl who was given a lot of money by babies paternal family. Idea was for baby to have it invested in their future. House deposit, uni etc.

Yeah she invested it in a bmw convertible on the basis ‘they’d be really pleased their first car was a cool one’.

Limboluna- I can’t believe there are people like this around!
It’s taken me months to come to terms with me having bought them a gift for the baby shower then felt like I was being tapped up to pay towards a new car, and it being almost labelled as a baby requirement just astounded me