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to think mum & sister need to get a grip?

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NotARealDuchess · 25/07/2018 09:20

This is longer than I thought so thanks for reading if you get to the end!

This past weekend I spent a couple of days with my mum who lives a few hours drive from me. We were talking about stuff in general and she asked if I’d seen sister lately. Said no. She knows this anyway as I don’t often, so I think her asking was just a stab. Anyway, I mentioned a few times that I talk to my best friend about this and that, I see her a lot, spend time with her kids etc, you get the gist. It just became apparent that she didn’t like the idea that this person (who I’ve known nearly 4 years) was in my life and that my sister is not in the picture so much. FWIW, my sister and I get on alright, but she’s 5 years younger than me, is very self opinionated, self absorbed, thinks the world revolves around her and her kids, would rather spend time with my ex husband than me and my family etc etc so I tend to avoid too much time with her. Sister is also aware that best friend is in my life and comes across as put out that I “am there” for my friend and we have a decent, close friendship.

Now I’m not one to start family feuds and am always the diplomatic one but am I right to tell my mother and sister to shut the f up with their comments about my friendship? My mum also thinks it’s weird that I have a good friendship with friends husband and doesn’t really ‘get’ that friendships can be platonic!

To add, my sister lives 30 mins drive away which isn’t too bad but I have 5 kids, she has 2 and we are never welcome in her house so we end up sat in parks which I hate, listening to her bitch about her mil, our mum or my ex husband! I have no interest!

Aibu to tell them to F off, get a life, a grip, grow up, leave me alone and to butt out of my friendships? my husband also thinks they’re jealous

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AhoyDelBoy · 25/07/2018 09:26

Weird, aren’t you ‘allowed’ friends Hmm
I’d tell them everything you said above.
I also think your husband is in to something

AhoyDelBoy · 25/07/2018 09:27

On*

NotARealDuchess · 25/07/2018 09:36

I’m not sure if it’s bevause they’ve never met her so they’ve just heard me speak about her and what we get up to etc, but yeh I do agree with my husband that there’s a bit of jealousy. Sometimes I feel that my friend is like the big sister I never had, but couldn’t say that to my mum and sister as they’d get in a mood “well you HAVE a sister already, you need to spend more time with HER not this other person”. Random replies like that. I’m too old to be told what to do nowadays but don’t like hassle or confrontation from the 2 of them. I’ve nicknamed them the witches of the West when they get together as that’s what they’re like 🙄

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Wolfpac · 25/07/2018 13:48

Why is your sister even contact with you ex husband that's more strange to me your mother should worry about that than your friendship with your best friends husband 😂 sounds like they are jealous to me!

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