AIBU to be fuming after being sent this video? [**Trigger Warning** child abuse - Edited by MNHQ]

[Giselleb1]

So my mil sent me a short video on whatsapp of a woman gruesomely beating her poor 4 month old baby :-( The video is the most disgusting thing ive seen a human being do to another person so i couldn't watch. The caption was "be careful who you leave your kids with"
I got so upset i cried and deleted it immediately. Its so insensitive of her to send it to me as i have a 4 month old myself. Im so livid she sent me that and i keep having flashbacks of the vid and feel sick (its that bad)
AIBU to be absolutely livid with her?

I just can’t understand what that video would help you with and how she was being helpful?
How upsetting for you x

I had a friend who was always posting horrible stuff on Facebook, once it was a photo of motorbike riders foot after an accident when he wasn't wearing leathers. It was really very graphic. I commented about it and then she posted passive aggressive statuses about me! This is a committed Christian. Our friends all said what shared was awful.

I know a lot of stuff is shared under the guise of "raising awareness" actually I think the sharers get off on it a bit. How is sharing a video of a mother beating her poor baby relevant to the OP, as it's the mother attacking her own child not a local babysitter. OPs MiL sounds either stupid or ignorant.

Asked her why she sent it and her response was "just so you know"
But did you ask her if she'd actually watched it? That's key!

''I know a lot of stuff is shared under the guise of "raising awareness" actually I think the sharers get off on it a bit. ''

This.
Giselleb1 do you have a way to block her from sending videos in the future?

Have you plans for going back to work any time soon OP? Was this some kind of angle for wanting to make you leave DC with her?

Someone posted a video of a dyeing dog on f.b yesterday. They were trying to raise awareness of dogs and heat but upset a lot of people

OP I’m sorry I’ve reported your post as think there needs to be a Trigger Warning in the title.

What was sent to you was so unacceptable- I would be distraught st seeing something like that as just seeing your brief description of it is upsetting.

I once dated a prison officer who worked in a max security and he told me why one of the inmates was in there and it played on my mind and upset me for ages. Awful!

She had seen it already as she commented herself that it was bad. She wont be looking after baby when i go back to work as i already have my mum to help so its nothing to do with that. Sorry if my post upset people...maybe i should have put a trigger warning in the title x

What is she like with you/your dd/children in general? I feel crazy saying that it comes across as a threat but it is so incredibly sinister that I couldn't find any rational reason for why you would send someone a video like that. Is she at all abusive towards you? The next thought would be that she is trying to trigger some kind of mental health problem. Next thought would be, given that the mother of the child was doing the beating, that it was meant as an implication that you/a close relative would do that. Last thought would be that she may have done it to provike a reaction from you to start some kind of fight.

I just don't see how this is a 'just so you know' scenario. Either your MIL has a few screws loose or she means some c kind of harm.

I would love to block her but that would just cause a whole drama

I would not give a flying fuck about causing drama. I would block her end of!

Going against the flow here but I see it that MIL was shocked by the video and just making the point that you can't trust anyone with your baby. I wouldn't block her or have a fall out.
Explain you was upset about it and that you don't like the videos.
No need for a big drama or fall out.

Someone I vaguely know shared a video of graphic violence against a child and I'll never get that out of my head. Absolutely horrific, it genuinely kept me awake at night for weeks and it still upsets me thinking about it.
It was just a video saying "What a monster" or something useless, so people could chat about hating the perpetrator in the comments, but honestly I have no idea why anybody would think sharing those images helps anybody, least of all the victims.

I'm sorry you had to see something similar. I blocked the person who shared the video. I would say to your MIL to never send you anything like that again, you can't do much else I suppose, if it's your mother in law!

I would go ahead and cause drama.
It’s an act of violence in itself to send you that.

Seems like she's the sort who needs it spelled out.

Write back "I'm well aware that there are terrible people out there who do horrible things to children. I am always careful with [baby's name]. I did not need to see that and found it sickening, and keep having horrible flashbacks to it. Please don't send me anything like that again. It's not helpful."

Send her some porn, just saying you thought she’d find this interesting...

I have family who do this. One sent me i hortific accident and a near drowning of an infant. I nearly had a panic attack and just managed to stave it off.

She thinks it is important for awareness. It is not. We are all knowing that awful things happen, we do not and shpuld not witness that poor infants trauma. They will be emotionally hurt when older by it.

The only place these videos should go is to the nspcc or police.

I have family and friends who do this.

Has anyone produced a book about social media and psychology yet? I'd love to read an analysis of behaviours like this! Some I put down to age, some are drama llamas, some read the daily mail, some are just thick.

There's a woman who I would assume to be an intelligent woman. She runs her own business (Not MLM! It's a a skilled profession). She thought this was real:

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You know that this dog thing is a joke?! It’s a dog with ham on its face for goodness sake!! So many idiots have been forwarding it on fb believing they are being helpful when they are just making themselves the butt of the joke.

She shared it in seriousness! I think it was actually one of the “Facebook will pay $1 for every share” ones

I just put a laughing emoji in the comments in the hope she’d look closer...

Sorry, I know I have derailed slightly by linking a spoof one to an abusive one. But anyway - this lady shares (actual) upsetting post frequently. Alongside inspirational quotes on sunsets. I just don’t get why.

How horrible for you OP. I'm sat with my gurgling 5 month old and just the thought of that is making me a bit tearful so I imagine actually having those images burned into your mind must be very disturbing. There is no justification for sending such graphic upsetting things, I can't understand what your MIL was thinking ! Hope your DH is more supportive of your point of view once he has time to mull it over.

Is she insinuating your DM would do something similar when she looks after your DC once you go back to work? All shades of bad this. Your MIL is a piece of work. Stand up to her.