I know IBU but DP is a prick

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Sorry I'm just posting because I need to get it off my chest before I implode.

DP is away for work and I'm on my own with DS1 3yo and DS2 8mo.
On Monday DS1 was ill so I was housebound with 2DCs for the full day DP came home at about 6pm did bedtimes with me and set off. We got no time together not even 5mins. Today DS2 is unwell. He spent the day crying at everything and trying to nap so once again I've spent the full day at home with 2 LOs mostly carrying DS2 everywhere and I'm rather deprived of adult social interaction which is probably clouding my judgement.

DP always calls before DS1 bedtime when he's away to say goodnight to him he text me at 6.20 to say he will call soon but didn't do it and didn't call until prompted him which was about 7.30 and DCs were in bed.
Call lasted about 5mins as he had to get a shower and get dressed for a night out and dinner with clients.
Told him DS2 is ill. Said he will text me through the night. There's been no contact. A text came at 11pm asking if I'm asleep to which I replied no. It was seen and he was still seen on WhatsApp at 12.30am but I had nothing else off him no asking about DS or how we're getting on or even the usual text letting me know he's back safe in his room.
Since 8pm I've been with DS2 for every 40 mins he sleeps he needs to be rocked for the same amount of time. He's crying, whinging, thrashing and sitting up. Won't BF and has bitten me multiple times when I've attempted a feed. I've been scratched and kicked trying to settle him and he's currently fidgeting being held by me. Everytime I think he's finally asleep he starts crying and rubbing his eyes or pulling my hair.
I'm sat here feeling pretty shit. Knackered, in pain and at at the absolute end of my tether. Also feeling pretty fucking resentful of DP for getting to bugger off to a posh hotel be wined and dined and go out drinking and getting to come back and have a full nights sleep whilst I'm here in tears and in pain looking after DS2 and he doesn't even bother to send a text or ask about him.

I'm ticked off and fed up and feel like he's an absolute prick right nowand wanting to send him a sarcy text saying "DS2 still in a bad way thanks for asking and no I'm not getting any sleep" but I won't because I know IBU and he is away for work not leisure (although it's a mix).

So here I'm sorry if I sound pathetic but I'm really tired and just needed to rant somewhere.
I shall go back to my sleeplessness and scratchy DS now.

Sending you a big hug OP, it's very hard when you are on your own at night and they are sick. Do you have any friends or family nearby who could give you a couple of hours break today?
I hope DS gets better soon. When your DH gets home, go to bed for some proper sleep this evening, no matter what time and then you could pick up the night wakings from him when he goes to bed. Make sure you get a good rest before though. I did almost all night wakings as I was a SAHM but some nights you need a break too.

Sorry your exhausted and that your dp is being a prat

My DS had a crazy fever at around 9 months, I think bought on by his vaccination then compounded by teething and general illness, and we had about 3 nights in a row like the one you've just had. It was hell. The things that helped most were calpol as often as it was allowed, and sleeping naked together (well, in my pants, you get what I mean) as the "skin to skin" helped to calm him and regulate his temperature.

I'm sorry you had a tough night. I think it is teething too (biting) and possible trapped wind from gulping/crying/trying to feed (arched back as soon as you put him down).
I would give him nurofen or calpol by syringe. Rub some bonjella to his gums before each feed. He won't like the taste but it will soothe his gums so he is less likely to bit or nip you. For your nipples try nipple shields and there is a good barrier rub called lansinoh in a purple tube. It will moisturise and soothe sore nipples. Dry your nipples and rub the cream on and air dry. Cold cabbage leaves will soothe sore breasts too. Warm compresses or running a warm shower head over the area and hand massage will help release the engorgement. Hang in there, you're doing really well. It's hard on your own especially with so little sleep. Instead of off loading your anger when DP comes home, get some sleep before having a discussion about how you want him to support you when he is away and what he can do. Is there is anyone you could ask to step in to give you a break while he is away? It will only end in an argument if you go in all guns blazing and tired from lack of sleep and he is tired from travelling. Remember this is only a blip, there will be better days to come. I know it is hard to imagine when you are in the thick of it but this too shall pass.