Omg I have just messed right up

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Just really messed up - 10 year old and I watched the boy in the stripped pyjamas. I didn’t realise the end was so graphic which I know is stupid considering 😩 he’s deverstated.

Good opportunity to talk it through. We read and watch it with year 8s at school bit some have already studied it in primary school.

ours watching it after reading the book in year 7 so 11/12 as part of the topic. speak to him about it.

He's 10, not 6. It's not ideal, but google how to explain the adult themes and try to keep it factual: 10 old enough for some of those themes...

He's of the age the book is aimed at. Talk it through and decompress.

Give him a big cuddle and tell him it's ok to be sad. It's a really good chance to talk about difficult subject matter.

He talked with good understand as we watched it but the scene at the end will give him nightmares. How can I make that any better? What a way to start the holidays 😪😩

DS asked to watch it on DVD when he was 11 or 12. I agreed. After the film, he came to me in tears, complaining "You didn't tell me it would be sad!"

It's set in a concentration camp! DS knew what what that is because he had just studied the Holocaust at school. What was he expecting?

We live in a world in which such atrocities happened (and still happen now on some scale). I don't think 10 is too young to learn that.

I remember there being quite a few complaints about this film for this exact reason. It is upsetting, but at least it had a good, clear message and teaches that the anti-Semitic views displayed are wrong.

He will be just fine, and it'll make him think. Just remember, some people actually went through this, and at much younger ages. I know that is an over simplified way of putting it, but try to remember it is only a film and it's not always a bad thing for young people to feel these emotions.

Give him a big hug and tell him that the way he is feeling is a positive thing, and means he is a good person who cares for other human beings.

Don't beat yourself up OP.

How can I make that better

Time will help. He will process the information and come out wiser.

The book is not so graphic. I read it to my 9 year old and then we watched the film so it didn't seem so bad.

Thank you
You’ve really helped me process and explain his feelings. Thank you

“Give him a big hug and tell him that the way he is feeling is a positive thing, and means he is a good person who cares for other human beings. “

Perfect x

DS was about that age when he read the book
Brought me the book and said
"can you read the end because I don't think that happened and I am confused"
He literally could not process such horror-
Man's inhumanity to man-but so important!!
its heartbreaking. But important message for humanity...
Never forget

Talk to him about it. It's normal to be upset and 10 isn't that young to see/know about genocide.

Was discussing with a colleague how the kids at school got upset at the little boy being gassed, but didn’t think especially about the genocide/all the other children. It’s a heartbreaking film.

DS is a resistant reader and I knew it was a super well written book - I wish he had read it first......

I did the same with my younger two - I'd read the book and assumed the film finished in a similar fashion. They were upset at the time but it doesn't seem to have scarred them for life. Hope you and your ds are ok x

I've heard some kids get upset when Bruno dies because 'he wasn't supposed to go in the gas chambers'.

Its good that he is upset. Its a good thing that he is unable to comprehend such evil without nightmares. People like him are what prevents anything like that from ever happening again.