So ss is 21 this week having a big party Saturday 200miles away from us, we'd booked a hotel and our dc were going to grannies for the night. Today oh found out on fb his uncle had died,the funeral is Saturday, oh decided we can't go to the party and he wants to go to the funeral on his own he says he wants to be there for his dad and there are other family members staying at his dad's. oh will sleep in his dad's room with him so there's no room for me. I have only met his uncle once we've been together 14years ( this was at mils funeral). I've rung my mum to say she doesn't have to have the children and she's said it's a odd situation I'm family and I need to put my foot down and tell him I'm going, and really she thinks we should go to the party rather than the funeral or I should go to the party on my own I really don't want to go to the party on my own, but feel a bit sad oh doesn't want me to go to the funeral with him. His dad lives about 400 miles away ss lives in the middle so I've suggested he goes to see him on the way home on Sunday and takes him out for lunch. Aibu to feel a bit sad that oh separates the different aspects of his life.