To anticipate being in a bad mood tonight. First world problems

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We are going on holiday on Saturday. I work full time with a very full on job and hugely look forward to our summer holidays. I also always get into a pre holiday packing and organising stress.

DH also works full time, but works shifts and as things happens he has this entire week off before we go away.

I have given DH a list of chores such as laundry, shopping and stuff that needs to be done before we go away (IMO). The list includes tidying and cleaning our bedroom as I have been working intensely and haven't had a chance to deal with it. This is made worse by the fact that on Monday when our cleaner came DH went back to bed so she didn't clean our room.

I didn't get home til 11 last night and the room was a pigsty. I'm on my way home now and am anticipating he still won't have touched it and getting angry in anticipation. His view would be that it probably doesn't need cleaning and that if it does why should it just be down to him.

Aibu to be cross about this? If I get home and it's all been done clearly I won't be angry. If I get home and it's not been touched I will be fuming. My temper is compounded by the fact I book, pay for and organise most things including the holiday. I feel like if I come home to a tip I want to tell him not to come

Everyone knows you leave the house spotlessly clean, with fresh sheets on the bed for when you get back.

Nope. What will happen if you don't? The world as we know it will not end. Your sheets will be just the same as when you left them. So if they were ok to sleep in the day before you go, why not the day after you get back? .

My parents' ndn was so anal about leaving a clean house that she used to put the luggage in the car, then hoover the house, hoovering backwards towards the front door, then step out backwards, leaving the hoover just inside the door. My DM tripped over it when she went in to feed NDN's cats. Completely barmy.

Oh god not crumpled sheets!

Ok. I get it. I need to lighten up.

Am letting him do kids packing.

In terms of our bedroom it is such a state that it will be hard for me to pack myself. There is stuff everywhere - we need to de clutter but never have time. Piles of laundry. Not sure what's clean/dirty/ in between.

Our sheets are not just crumpled. They are dirty and yucky from the hot weather. Today was not the only day cleaner did not get access

I have learnt over the years that Four changes over two weeks works!

You must remember that everyone else is just looking at themselves and their perfect outfits/bodies and could not care less about anyone else!

Would you remember if someone wore the same top after two days, I doubt it! Well I wouldn't and I couldn't care less either!

We need to just go on holidays and enjoy it all....

I was taking the piss out of myself in my post! I know its strange but I do like to leave the house immaculate before we go away for two reasons. Firstly, my mum stays over to look after our cats and her standards are much higher than mine! Secondly, I hate it when you're all relaxed coming back from holiday to step in the house and see a load of jobs that need attending to. If its all nice when we go, the relaxation continues when we return. But mostly, my mother!