To skip LA even though DD has her heart set on it?

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We're doing a USA road trip in a few weeks. SanFrancisco to Utah. We were originally going to do San Fran - Vegas and LA and DD had her heart set on LA, universal studios, Malibu etc but honestly, LA is such a shit hole I really don't want to go so we've decided to skip LA and just do San Fran-Vegas-Utah and then back to SF. DD doesn't know yet and my mum thinks im being cruel making DD do a number of "boring" destinations and skipping the biggest thing she was looking forward to but it's such a shit hole I don't think she'd enjoy it anyway! AIBU to just call rank and knock it off the trip?

I think if it's been promised all along then it's a bit mean really. You say she has her heart set on it? I would stick to my original plan.

Yes of course YABU.

The thing your DD has set her heart on? If there isn't time, cut out one of the other things.

Vegas won’t be any fun for a kid. Why not skip that and go somewhere she’ll enjoy?

Honestly that’s so nasty and cruel I’m shocked.

What is the point of travelling all that way and spending all that money to have an upset kid????

It’s a family holiday not just your holiday so sometimes you need to suck it up and go to places your less keen on.

Yeah Vegas will be so crap for a kid. Let her go to LA!

All of LA is a shithole?

I think you should go...it's a family holiday and she's part of the family.

How old is your dd?

It might be your idea of a shithole, but it might be her idea of heaven.

I would go. The central main bit of LA isn’t very lovely, but seeing the Hollywood sign on the hill and the stars on the pavement was exciting to me when I went there aged 11. I also loved Malibu beach.

My favourite bits were probably Santa Cruz and Carmel, but I can’t remember how far out they are from LA.

Vegas is much more of a shithole than LA IMO. I think if it’s been suggested to her and she’s lookinh forward to it it would be cruel not to bring her.

If she’s a teenager and likely to strop, a west coast road trip will be no fun at all if she feels she’s being dragged along to places she’s not interested in

Very mean to cancel it (and not tell her) when she's been looking forward to it. I agree it's a shit hole but it's a family holiday

Yep, that would be a really shitty thing to do to her. Your Mum is right. It’s a family holiday and it is important to her. If you need to drop something, then I suggest dropping Vegas.

That's quite mean to just decide you're not taking her.

It's not all a shit hole. I don't like LA much either but it's not that terrible.

can you not go for two days and do universal studios and a trio to Malibu and then onwards to wherever?

San Francisco is "cool" so maybe extend your time there and let her pick what to do? She might be willing to give up on LA if she has more say in other areas.

Why Utah? Scenery can be stunning but if you are not into hiking/biking/outdoor adventure activities, it's not very interesting. Just a lot of long drives.

Yes like any city parts of LA are unpleasant and parts are nice

And she really wants to go let her decide

and how old is she for Vegas

Oh....it’s a long way, apparently. 😆 We were on a road trip and it was a long time ago, in my defence 😬

Oh and Vegas is rubbish if you aren't into gambling.

It's ok for a novelty day staying in a ridiculous hotel but then there is nothing to do but gamble and eat.

YABU
That is so mean and selfish.
Not all of LA is a shit hole...take the poor kid to Universal Studios and/or go to Anaheim and have a day in Disneyland.
I did Vegas and San Fran as a teenager and loved both though so I’d also definitely disagree that these are ‘boring places’ but you can’t not take her to the place she’s excited about.

You've got to do LA! We went to California a few years ago and LA was my dds' favourite bit. We did a tour of Beverly Hills, Universal and Warner Bros studio tour. And all the touristy bits - Walk of Fame etc.

How old is she?

Yeah Vegas is really grubby when you look past the obvious glamour-I think it would be really mean of you to skip the one place she wants to go to, why would you want to upset her? Also the fact you're not telling her is quite shit, if you have decided to avoid it you need to tell her now so she can manage her dissapointment, though again I really don't get why you'd want to do that to her...

I like LA. Huntington Beach is lovely.
I don't know how old your DD is, but mine would be devastated at missing Disneyland.

No all of LA is a shithole. She really wants to, and there’s so much to see/do there, what a shame to miss out on it.

*not

Oh bless your DD. LA is huge, there are loads of places to go

Stay, not go!