To ask for some help getting motivated?

[Pushmeintherightdirection]

I am very good at putting things off but I need to get my shit together.

DC with ex this week so I have no excuse and an opportunity to get a lot done but I am not. I am having a pity party.

I miss DC. I get to speak to them so it's not an excuse.

Friends and family seem to be letting me down left, right and centre.

I have work but it pays terribly when I should be in a good job with good pay. I am getting nowhere with finding a new job. I don't know what's happened. I had a career once but had to relocate to a part of the country where there are few jobs in my field . I am 'too senior' to get most jobs even though I would happily do them. Add in being a single parent in my mid forties and it's the perfect recipe for employers to dismiss me without even meeting me. I know I do well in interviews but I'm not getting in front of people. I don't even get an acknowledgment for some job applications.

My house is in a state of disrepair. It is depressing to live in. I can't afford to do anything about a lot of it but there are some things I could do myself. Why am I not getting on with them? Somebody please give me a kick up the arse.

there are some things I could do myself

What are these things?

First things first.

and pen. Make The List.

I have all the lists! No problem with that at all. I actually need to get up and get doing.

Things I can do are sorting through (a lot of) things and a deep clean. I wouldn't class myself as a hoarder as such but I have hoarding tendencies. I could do some decorating if I could get the first two done.

Type first 3 items on The List here.

Then go do. I shall hold you accountable

I have recently found a system that really works.
I write a weekly list of all the things 'hanging over me' that are making me anxious and even more anxious the more I put them off.
Then each day I make sure I do one of those things, on top of my daily to do list. Even if it's really small like sending an email or making a call.
Then I tick them off slowly and don't overwhelm myself all at once.

I've recently had a bad bout of lack of focus and motivation where I was getting stressed because I was putting things off, but still didn't do them and this really helped.

Make sure your targets are achievable.
You say you have hoarding tendencies? List the ones you need to keep with the ones that need to go. Set yourself a time thats best to carry it out, and work backwards in 10 then 20 then even 30 mins increments.
Slow and easy does it. It seems insurmountable at first but even a 10 mins emptying the bin and clearing the crap off a dresser shelf helps.

@Mmmmgoats is right. I was getting overwhelmed with a list of things I'd promised myself I would tackle on mat leave and were just sitting there not done with weeks left to go until I go back to work. I've started to do one or two a week and it's made a huge difference to my state of mind. One of them was cleaning out drawers and wardrobes. I threw lots out. It's cathartic. Do it!

Write on list: do something I enjoy.
Then do it.