To be concerned...

[Torn1991]

I have a family member who has children.

The family member (FM) is known to use weed occasionally, and has a history of partying hard even after having kids.

They have recently temp moved out of their place of residence due to a falling out with another family member there.

Currently the kids are sleeping on sofas, in buggies etc, and the older ones have shown signs that they are being effected by the situation.

The family member has said that they are hoping to resolve all matters and have the kids moved back home this week, but I'm torn... If they do move back I doubt the situation will improve, there will always be fighting in their old house - it's a long, on going thing. If they stay out, the kids will remain sleeping on sofas etc, and will eventually end up in emergancy housing or similar, plus I doubt my family member will cope.

I'm very close to the kids, and I'm concerned for their welfare but I just don't know what to do. How can I help them and their parent!? I'm also worried that someone will end up reporting them to child welfare or similar.

This is a anonymous post and I don't want it on FB and/or on other sites (daily mail etc)

Yanbu. What are your options? Could they stay with you? Could you help this family member to find their own place? Or would the intervention of social services actually help the situation (and give your family member a reality check?)

Telephone and inform the social services and the police. This is abuse and neglect, and the weed is illegal.

Id phone social services, I'm pretty sure they keep it anonymous anyway? They also will assess the situation so won't jump in with both feet so to speak. You have to look out for the children, and you say it's effecting them already.

Where are they staying that there are no beds?

I live just too far away for them to stay, plus I don't have the room. Sadly.

They are between friends houses, sofa surfing basically.