To record every conversation I have with DP in the future?

[MonaLisaSimpson]

He's done that annoying man thing: I told him a bit of trivia last week. He's just told it to me and was surprised that I already knew.

Me: I told you that last week.

Him: No I read it somewhere.

Me: I told you. I was driving your car at the time and I was pulling onto the motorway. I remember it distinctly.

Him: No, I definitely read it somewhere.

I either record every single conversation I have with him or I kill him, not decided which yet.

Kill the bastard

My dh does this, he doesn’t say “oh I read it somewhere” he is just insistent that I NEVER told him that blah blah does my nut in
My mum does this too but she doesn’t have the greatest memory and just cannot remember it was me that told her, her memory does worry me sometimes

LTB....

In a similar boat, OP. Drives me up the fucking wall... Coupled with wonderful ideas to help my mum out, when actually they were my ideas, and taking credit for his own mother's birthday presents which I chose, bought and wrapped.

Twatsticks, the lot of 'em!

It drives me insane. And the worst of it is that I actually believe that he genuinely thinks he hasn't heard it from me!

Ooh my dh does that too, usually when i've suggested a way of fixing something, he'll mutter for a while, then pronounce a way of fixing whatever-it-is...exactly as i suggested a few minutes before. I say, 'that's what i just said'... he says 'no you didn't' . Gaslighting at it's finest, but i don't end up doubting my sanity...just question his hearing/comprehension/memory

I’m with you on this. I got so sick of it I did this once...

Me: have you seen (insert made up story) on the news today?
Him: yes
Me: I made that up
Him: no you didn’t (mumbles random bullshit whilst insisting I’m wrong then asks me if I’m pleased with myself)

Yes it was pathetic but it proved my point to myself that he CANNOT under any circumstances accept that I may know a fact before him.

Oh. My. God. Yes.
"You did NOT tell me about this."
YES I FUCKING DIIIIIIIIIIIIID!

Unfortunately I can't remember exactly where we were, what we were doing and what we were wearing every single time. But even when I can, he STILL insists I didn't tell him.

My DH does this.

I hesitated over adding the 'D'.

It makes me murderous.

Dh has told me each of his 'funny stories' many times. I've number them.

Mine doesn't do this, but his version of it...

Me: I think we should do X, it'll be nice
Him: no, we can't do that for Y reason
.... 4 - 6 weeks later....
Him: why don't we do X?
Me: I suggested that a month ago!
Him: No you didn't.

X can be literally anything, from holiday destination to colour we should paint a wall, to nice gift for his mum. It's infuriating.

Who's going to say it first.... Patio the bastard

Argh! My dd does this.

Particularly annoying when I've told her eg I need her home at a particular time or that someone's coming to the house for an appointment and she forgets and then gets cross at me for not telling her - except I bloody did!

I've taken to repeating it all by text so she can't claim she didn't know!

Drives me nuts!

"" You did NOT tell me about this."
YES I FUCKING DIIIIIIIIIIIIID! "

That's EXACTLY the feeling! Tearing hair out, screaming YES I DIIIIIIIID!!!

Drives me wild! FIL did this recently.. told us several weeks ago that someone he knew was thinking of naming their baby 'X' (insert unusual name). We had a discussion about it and I said I'd actually heard that name before.

Baby has now been born. FIL said 'guess what they've called her!? X!!!' We said oh yes.. you told us a few weeks ago they were considering it.

FIL absolutely insistent he did no such thing. Insistent that he's never heard the name before in his life, never knew they were considering it, never discussed it with anyone and certainly not us. Think he remembered in the end but was NOT going to admit to it

We have had picture gate running for the last few weeks.
We have been decorating the dining room and have some pictures to put up. We discussed and agreed..

His biggest picture on the big wall
My medium picture on the medium red wall, as it has red bits on it
DS's smaller picture on the smaller wall.

We have discussed it several times, and came to this agreement. All fine.

DH....I'm not doing the pictures yet as we need to decide where they are going
ME..We decided didnt we ?...
DH.. No we hadn't decided yet, I wasn't sure the big picture should go on the red wall
ME..No we decided my picture with red bits would go on the red wall
DH...Did we
ME ..YES...WE...HAD..THIS..DISCUSSION..THREE..TIMES

It did cross my mind the red wall would not show up the blood

I don't remember exactly what I was doing every time, just on this occasion the trivia was about a former F1 commentator and I happened to be driving his car, which I don't do very often.

He looked genuinely confused when I got pissed off with him!

Who's going to say it first.... Patio the bastard

Funny you should say that.....!!

We had our patio done last year. Had a major embarrassing public row in the paving slab yard because he insisted that the Indian Sandstone that I wanted would scratch and I absolutely refused to contemplate the ghastly municipal square concrete slabs that he wanted.

Long story short, I eventually won and sandstone is great.

The other week overheard him telling neighbour that I wanted municipal concrete but he insisted on the Sandstone.......... [sceptical]........still not really talking to him.

I do this to DH

DH and I did a spur of the moment activity suggested by me while on holiday. It was a once in a lifetime event for us which we hadnt discussed before .I realised it would be possible and did a little research about the cost etc before telling DH about it.We had a fab time and were both really happy we went for it.

Cue back at home and DH is telling everyone how he had planned it all secretly and how it was a great surprise to me !He gets all the details muddled up and the cost decreases with each telling.

I let him get on with it TBH - its not worth the argument in the end and I still have the memory of me suggesting a great thing that actually worked out well.

Sometimes I think I am losing the plot when DH does this to me. I have thought about recording everything a few times. And he says I don`t listen to him!!

My DP is forever telling me interesting things... that I told him in the first place

Sometimes I tell him I already know because I said it first but after 2 years I honestly just let him say it and go “oh no way?” Etc

He just looks so happy that he has something interesting to say and I’ve met his father who is exactly the same but 100x worse so it isn’t stopping any time soon

I've thought about doing this as well! DH consistently "remembers" things (conversations, events etc...) differently and usually in some way that benefits him/his opinion/the point he is trying to argue. I catch him doing this all the time and he will only acknowledge that he something happened the way I know it happened if there is a witness who backs up my recollection. It actually doesn't happen that often but it's SO irritating that he believes his terrible memory is infallible despite daily occurrences at home and at work that demonstrate what a scatterbrain he is. I promise he has many redeeming qualities...