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TTC and holidays

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Manycatsandallthegin · 23/07/2018 21:12

Hi all, long term lurker and first time poster.

DH and I have been a married a year and I am super broody. We both have good, well paid jobs in the public sector which we love, an affordable mortgage So all set!

We’ve agreed that I will come off the pill (microgynon) at christmas and start TTC casually. I say casually as i’ve been on the pill for 8 years without a break and am not expecting to be lucky first time around. That being said, i could be....

Here in lies the problem, we are also looking to book a big adventurous trip to the otherside of the world for March/April time which is a bucket list item... but in theory by the time we go, I could be 3-4 months pregnant....or less....or more. Or not at all!!!

Im torn as to whether to book and just see what happens and cancel if im suffering too much to make the expensive trip worth while. Or whether to not even bother booking and see how TTC goes?

Full disclosure I’d like to start TTC sooner but we visited a country with zika virus less than 6 months ago so have to wait.

What do you think, am I mad to consider a multicentre trip on the otherside of the world when i might be in the early days of pregnancy? Or in that awful time of TTC.

Thanks all

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Jimdandy · 23/07/2018 21:31

Personally, I would either not book to go at all and ttc or I would wait until the holiday and use that as the time to start trying.

ADuckNamedSplash · 23/07/2018 21:43

Personally, I would either not book to go at all and ttc or I would wait until the holiday and use that as the time to start trying.

Agree. You won't necessarily know how much you'll be suffering before you go - you might be ok on the day you set off and suffering badly with morning sickness and fatigue a few days later. Also, not nice to think about, but what if something went wrong out there and you needed medical attention? I.e. if the pregnancy turned out to be ectopic, if you suffered a miscarriage with heavy blood loss, etc. Would you really want to be stuck on the other side of the world, navigating an unfamiliar medical system, etc?

peachypetite · 23/07/2018 21:44

Surely just wait a few months? Why would you risk feeling awful on the holiday of a lifetime?

NorthernLurker · 23/07/2018 21:56

Three to four months in ttc should not be awful, it's supposed to be fun Grin
Early pregnancy oth really sucks. I would wait and start ttc on holiday.

GnTplease · 23/07/2018 22:00

I'd agree with the other posters and wait (which I know is hard when you're really broody) - I was on the pill for a really long time and got pregnant immediately despite me and my partner being a bit older. The first few months were brutal - I was so so sick and felt like absolute shit. I'd have been gutted to go on a bucket list holiday feeling like that! Why not hold off and start the trying when you go away. It's just a few months in the grand scheme of things

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Manycatsandallthegin · 23/07/2018 22:09

Hi thank you all for replying!

Yes i thought I was being unreasonable. I just want my cake and to eat it too as i so want to start TTC asap. But we’re likely to not gonuntil kids are grown up etc.

Very sensible re untoward events happening on the otherside of the world if I were to go when pregnant.

Guess we’ll just have to keep practising until then....Wink

Now just to combat this broodiness...hmmm

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Busytizzy · 23/07/2018 22:19

If it were me, I think I'd come off the pill at Christmas and then use barrier protection until after the holiday. I was on microgynon for 15 years, and when I stopped taking it to TTC, it took 9 months for my cycle to return to any kind of normality.

InsuranceGirl · 23/07/2018 22:23

I had the pill non stop for years too and came off last Christmas, we started TTC and expected it would take a while, I was pregnant quite fast and I’m due to give birth in October!

Do your holiday and start trying whilst on holiday, I’ve had severe morning sickness and it would really impact on your holiday. But enjoy all the practice in the meantime!

mindutopia · 23/07/2018 22:27

I would go and enjoy your trip and start ttc while you’re away. You won’t get to do something like that again for a very long time once you have a baby. Go and live it up and start the baby making then.

My dh and I went backpacking through India the month before we started ttc our first. In fact, I finished my last pill on the weekend we left to fly home. I’d been on the pill 13 years at that point. We found out 7 weeks later than I was pregnant. In fact, I’ve gotten pregnant first or second month 3 times now (all in my 30s, last baby at 37). It can happen pretty fast so go and enjoy your trip. You will not regret it when you are exhausted and haven’t left the house alone without a baby in 11 months.

Pebbleinthesand · 23/07/2018 22:36

DH and a similar decision to make before conceiving DD as we had booked a holiday to somewhere where the Zika virus was known to be. Like you, I'd been in the pill for years so I stopped taking it as planned (a few months before the holiday) and we used condoms so that the pill would be out of my system fully, then started trying when we got back. I got pregnant the first month we were properly trying. My DD IS 13 months old now. Good luck and enjoy your holiday Xx

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