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INeedMoreCakeInMyLife · 23/07/2018 20:43

So my dc came home today and said he'd stollen something from a supermarket worth £2... He said he'd been dared to, or he would get beaten up. When he had got to school he realised it was wrong
He sat in tutor and wrote an apology letter and stating he would take the money tomorrow to pay for it.
He told his head of year.. He'd said he got rid of the item in fear he'd get caught.
She agreed not to ring me until he'd returned to the store with his letter and had time to come and tell me himself.

He got home and told me straight away what he'd done, reason why and that he'd taken a letter to the security guard.
The security guard aparantly had thanked him for his honesty and said not to worry about the money.

I missed the call from his teacher :/ ill call back in the morning as she didn't call until 5pm and no reception staff to call back to

So.. He knows I'm angry at what he's done. But not as much Because off his own back he wrote the letter and admitted to teacher and I'm glad he saw the error of his ways

I regularly shop in that store, maybe 3-4 times a week, and they would recognise him as my son.

Tomorrow I am going to go in when he's at school and find out what happened exxctly and to pay for the item (his money of course,)hopefully I won't get barred or anything

Is there anything else I should do, I think he's learnt his lesson. But I'm very disappointed he felt the pressure to do it.

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Annechristmas · 23/07/2018 20:54

I'd be more concerned about the threat to beat him up and find out who they are.

ManyCrisps · 23/07/2018 21:01

Just leave it you’re not even concerned about how he was threatened by other pupils.

Cismyass · 23/07/2018 21:03

Erm yes, that thing about getting beaten up OP?..... Hmm

hidinginthenightgarden · 23/07/2018 21:10

Sounds like he is being bullied to me. I would ask for more information about why it happened.

Returnofthesmileybar · 23/07/2018 21:13

As pp you need to find out why he is being threatened and by whom. I personally wouldn't make him pay as I would be proud of admitting it when he didn't have to and approaching the security guard with a letter takes guts. I'd probably be proud Blush I think the way he handled it says a lot about him. But you definitely need to talk to the school about the bullying

INeedMoreCakeInMyLife · 23/07/2018 21:14

Sorry yes that's what I will also be disgusting that with the head of year in the morning.
The boy that threatened it, my son has a weird friendship with.. Sometimes get on well other times they hate each other.
Son has said they had lunch together in the end and walked home together.. Kids!

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 23/07/2018 21:15

I wouldn’t give a stuff about any of it apart from who is threatening him! Yet you don’t even mention that Hmm

1CantPickAName · 23/07/2018 21:24

Your son sounds like a great boy, a credit to you.

I wouldn’t worry about going back to the shop yourself, your son handled it and it’s all okay.

if Your son and this boy have a love/hate relationship (if you see what I mean) have a talk with your son about peer pressure and talk about ways he could be more assertive. IME ‘bullys’ who threaten to beat up rarely have the follow through when challenged

1CantPickAName · 23/07/2018 21:31

Also, unless this is really a case of bullying (and only you and your son can answer that) it might not be of benefit to your son to raise it with the school given their ‘weird’ relationship and given that it is the end of term.

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