Should I feel lucky about this or is it ok to feel a bit shit.
DH brother and him fell out last year. It wasn’t really related to me, it was some deep rooted stuff which ended coming out in a row about other things. Some of it was to do with me but it wasn’t my fault and I did try to appeal to them both not to “never speak again” but that fell on deaf ears and they and we (his family and ours have NC). DH is adamant this will be the case forever.
During the row BIL said DH had “changed” since he had met me (9 years ago). I have supported him in getting support for his anxiety and he has had counselling and made changes to help himself.
DH Mother makes no effort with him at all. Kicked him out to join the forces aged 16 and she didn’t work for years and used to contact DH when she needed a loan. He always makes an effort every year with her bday and she doesn’t even bother to text. I blew one year (his 40th) and she has bearly spoken to me since although made a big palava about having her photo taken with me on our wedding day. Doesn’t bother with her Grandchildren- ever. They saw her last year (they are not my DC) and they didn’t know who she was.
DH sister also borrowed loads of money that she never paid back. Didn’t bother coming to our wedding and has visited us once in 9 years. Again she accuses me of coming between her and her brother (she never phones - and he isn’t with me all week) or sends a bday (because she had a 3 month old baby) card or makes any effort whatsoever with us or her nieces. I deleted her from FB because of all the bollocks she posts about being an Auntie (she doesn’t even know when their bdays are). She last saw them 6 years ago.
DH Dad and partner lovely and make loads of effort to see us and the kids and he is really suppportive of us and I know has stuck up for me to the rest of them.
Is this me who is a shit stirring trouble maker or am I getting a lucky escape here? 