Husband losing temper - AIBU?

[CalendulaFlower]

OH decided to turn our loft into a music room (for him) a few months ago. No consultation and I was too busy to discuss properly (started a business last year and it's been non-stop ever since). I can't find anything up there now as he keeps moving things, not a major issue it's nothing important but it is a bit annyoing ( I've not complained though).

Yesterday I went up to find he'd shoved everything under the eaves. I asked where a specific item was and was it accessible and he completely lost it and started shouting at me that I was impossible, didn't trust him, had gone on and on about this (I haven't - I've barely been up there).

WIBU? I feel he over-reacted and now I daren't mention it. He does tend to have a short fuse and I do have to be careful sometimes otherwise he loses it.

It's not normal to have to tip toe around your husband for fear of him losing it

He does tend to have a short fuse and I do have to be careful sometimes otherwise he loses it.
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This is abusive, you have to moderate your behaviour and 'be careful' so he doesn't lose it. It's control using aggression. This isn't about the loft room, you have bigger issues, although before I read to the end I did wonder what he was hiding up there that he didn't want you rummaging through our asking questions about

I'd be wondering what the heck he's trying to hide in the eaves that's provoked an outburst like that .

If you feel you have to walk on egg shells to keep him appeased, there is something not right.

I saw this with my mum and dad. It absolutely used to break my heart seeing my mum apologise to my dad for him losing his shit, just so she could keep a relatively peaceful household.

Him having something to hide up there was my first thought too.

I genuinely don't think he's hiding anything up there. He just seems to have a thing about me not 'trusting' him to do a job properly and can't handle any kind of questioning or even mild criticism.

I suppose I know, really that it's not normal to have to limit what you say or tip-toe around someone for fear that they might lose it