To wonder if it’s selfish moving abroad, PIL abandoning dh gran

[LardLizard]

I’m torn as half of me thinks everyone should be able to do what they want

But half of me thinks poor dh gran
She 90 and not in the best of health

Plus her other son and dil are also moving far away but not abroad

Travel please get on the Stately Homes thread and get some help learning how to get distance from your toxic father.

A serious discussion needs to happen with them about who is there for the gran in an emergency/checking she is being cared for etc. Everyone has a right to choose their life but not at the expense of others.

So the gran has the right to expect personal care at the expense of her son's and DIL's lives?

I'd run even faster from anyone who held inheritance over my head. If they want to use money to extract care then they need to use their money now to pay for it.

Track and others totally agree, you can’t judge because you don’t know the history

It’s only in this case that o do know more
I think the gran did used to do a few shitty things but nothing that bad

Things like not letting her d sons out to play or have birthday parties