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Saw Asian neighbour being harassed. Reported to 101. Now it's a crime, & I'm beside myself.

61 replies

Yoksha · 23/07/2018 17:26

This afternoon I witnessed a gang of boys, some on bikes, jeering, banging & shouting on my neighbour's door. I saw same boys on Saturday after lunch. They were cycling in & out of drives. I clocked them because they were strangers.

My neighbour came out his door. They were all jumping up and down, laughing and generally being disrespectful. He lost it and sped after them. He had his shoe in mid-air ready to throw. He was swearing etc. I pulled him back and advised him to stop. He told me this isn't the first time. They were being disrespectful from the ethnicity aspect. It went beyond jolly japes. There was a negative vibe to what I saw.

I called 101 to log what I'd seen. Obtained log nos. It transpires the ethnic disrespect is considered a racial hate crime. Went to give it to neighbour. Was intending to let him know that if he wanted to take it further, then it was up to him. I swear no longer than 3mins passed as I went out front door & there was my neighbour, a cop car with 2 constables, some upset young lads from another house and their grandparents. Lads were vehemently saying "it wasn't us". I didn't clock too much. Only vague ages. Well dressed etc. It turns out some were mates of this other neighbour's lads. My harassed neighbour hadn't called police. He was as bemused as me. The grandparents of the young lads also bemused. My BP has gone through the roof. I can't stop crying of repercussions. I want to run away and hide. I really wished I'd kept my big mouth shut. I'm not a young mum now. Grandma of 20 & 18 yrs olds. I'm just frightened & getting this out of perspective. Please give me a kick up the pants & tell me to calm down. This has all taken on a bizarre life of it's own.

OP posts:
Changenameday · 23/07/2018 17:28

If you logged it with 101 I doubt it would be that quick of a response, maybe someone else witnessed it and reported to 999?

SandyFagina · 23/07/2018 17:29

I've literally no idea what you're upset about.

Leesa65 · 23/07/2018 17:29

What are you upset about exactly ?

MrSpock · 23/07/2018 17:30

Why are you upset? The racists got what was fair, maybe now they’ll stop harassing people.

NoSquirrels · 23/07/2018 17:31

Why are you worried? The gang of lads were behaving like arseholes, and it is a hate crime to racially harrass.

The police will sort out who it was or wasn't.

Nothing for you to feel bad about, you were helping.

LeftRightCentre · 23/07/2018 17:31

Not sure why you're upset, tbh.

Badbadtromance · 23/07/2018 17:32

Not sure what you are bothered by?

Laiste · 23/07/2018 17:32

a cop car with 2 constables, some upset young lads from another house and their grandparents. Lads were vehemently saying "it wasn't us"

I don't understand what you're upset about tbh. Two coppers were speaking to two lads on the street and they were saying ''it wasn't us''. Did the the police cuff them and cart them away or something?

If you're going to report something to the police surely the logical desired outcome is ... police might try and do something?

There's a thread running at the moment complaining that the police never do anything!

PandaPolarBear · 23/07/2018 17:32

So you reported some teens who were harassing your neighbour, banging on his door and shouting, generally being racist arseholes... and now you're upset that they are (quite rightly!!) having to face some consequences?

MatildaTheCat · 23/07/2018 17:32

Nobody will tell them who made the call. You did the right thing and the authorities decided how they wanted to respond.

Better than turning away, surely?

19lottie82 · 23/07/2018 17:34

So you called the police and now you’re upset that the police turned up?

Good for you. These lads might think twice about committing more hate crimes.

What are you upset about?

Leesa65 · 23/07/2018 17:34

What does the lads being well dressed have to do with anything ?

Are well dressed lads not capable of being little gits then ?

UpstartCrow · 23/07/2018 17:35

Yoksha someone else saw it happening and called 999, they don't respond that fast to 101.

And it isn't out of perspective for the police to attend, racial abuse is disgusting. It starts off low level and they always escalate.
I know its unpleasant, but if you lived in Nazi Germany would you help the Nazis or the Jews? Sometimes we have to stand up for what is right.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 23/07/2018 17:36

The boys got what they deserved. What are you upset about?

Seasawride · 23/07/2018 17:38

You did what anyone else would do! Why the drama.

OftenHangry · 23/07/2018 17:39

I think what the OP is upset about is that she is worried, the young lads will now make her life hell.

Good on you doing something @Yoksha!!!
It's nice to hear that people care about their neighbours and don't let racism and bullying like this slide. Don't worry yourself too much now. You've done the right thing

LaMainDeFatima · 23/07/2018 17:40

Well done for standing up to racism. Your neighbour shouldn’t have to put up with it . The local lads shouldn’t get away with it

TrudeauGirl · 23/07/2018 17:41

If they were racially harassing someone, then they rightly should be pulled up on it.

I would have told the police too, in the hopes something was done

But it may be me being a bit sleepy today but i didn't fully follow the post. I'm not sure why you're upset. Apologies If I'm missing something.

Firsttimemum892 · 23/07/2018 17:42

It’s clear to see here that you are worried that there will be some kind of revenge attack on yourself for calling the police so I don’t know why everybody is asking what you are upset about. As someone else has said it looks like someone else called 999 and there’s no way this can be traced back to you so don’t worry , you don’t have to give further evidence if you dont want to do calm down. You done the right thing

TrudeauGirl · 23/07/2018 17:42

Oh sorry cross post.

If you're worried about repercussions, tell the police your fears, they protect witnesses.

TakeMeToKernow · 23/07/2018 17:43

Bless you OP, you did the right thing. Flowers

Me and my big mouth have been known to speak up when something isn't right, and I'm afraid it has never got us any thanks :( but I really wish more people would! I know the squirming feeling of doubt and embarrassment, but please tell yourselves firmly that you did nothing unreasonable, not at all.

Foreverlexicon · 23/07/2018 17:44

101 calls and 999 calls are taken by the same people. It wouldn’t necessarily affect rate of response.

If a call came through on 101 reporting a hate crime which has just happened or in progress it would be an immediate response same as if it came through on the 9s. If it’s an emergency, the number you dial won’t affect the response rate, 101 can just take longer to get through. If it’s just happened, it would be an immediate as they will want to try and find the people who did this.

No idea why you’re upset Confused surely it’s a GOOD thing the police responded even if they ended up having a chat with the wrong people?!

nocoolnamesleft · 23/07/2018 17:44

You witnessed a crime.

You reported the crime.
The police responded to the crime.

Well done, you acted as a responsible citizen. And now the police are doing their job.

NewYearNewMe18 · 23/07/2018 17:47

They were cycling in & out of drives. I clocked them because they were strangers.

some upset young lads from another house and their grandparents. Lads were vehemently saying "it wasn't us".....It turns out some were mates of this other neighbour's lads

So the police have pulled the wrong lads?

Redglitter · 23/07/2018 17:47

This is the thing with the old MN cry of log it. You can't just log a crime. You reported a hate crime so it has to be investigated.

You absolutely did the right thing though even if it doesn't get progressed it might make them think twice in future.

Don't worry though your details won't be given to anyone