Theybies - Attention Seeking Parents?

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www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna891836

A theyby is, I think, different things to different people,” Nate Sharpe told NBC News. “For us, it means raising our kids with gender-neutral pronouns — so, ‘they,’ ‘them,’ ‘their,’ rather than assigning ‘he,’ ‘she,’ ‘him,’ ‘her’ from birth based on their anatomy.

On another site he was quoted as saying “we don’t tell anyone their gender... not even the children themselves”

The (twin) children are 3

Has this been going on for ages? I’ve never heard of it

I don’t really see the issue?

Parents are taking steps to avoid their children being forced into damaging gender stereotypes, sounds like a good idea to me.

Gender stereotypes are enforced literally from birth, being in a position to avoid that for a period of time whilst the children are within important formative years I can only imagine would provide a huge benefit to them.

For fucks sake. Why do people insist on fucking up their children’s lives before they’ve even begun? The mind baffles it really does.

Couldn’t give a shit if my potential future son or daughter wanted to change sex- but it isn’t my body or my mind and therefore not my decision.

Honestly.

You cant tell the gender of a baby, only its sex. TheyABU.

Lol this is absolutely fucking ridiculous

What Upstart said.

Seriously this sort of thing really gets my goat! What the F is wrong with your child knowing if its a boy or a girl!! I think the whole we'll let them decide is more likely to cause anxiety and issues in kids. Put your energy into providing your children with as many different experiences as possible and let them grow up naturally!

Fucking ridiculous

Children are going to end up not thinking straight. Poor kids.

It's like the thread from the other day with a young boy wearing a pinafore to school.

Why would you do it to your child?

So presumably “good boy”, “clever girl”, “Mummy’s precious Boy” etc are out then too. I wonder how they address the children?

That said, it’s a non issue for a while I guess, pretty sure my almost-2 year old has no idea he’s a boy and would not be able to label his friends as boys or girls yet. I must pay attention to when that starts.

Parents are taking steps to avoid their children being forced into damaging gender stereotypes, sounds like a good idea to me.

Seriously?! It's the stereotyping behaviour that has to change not the descriptive language. Teaching your child that they can't say if they're a boy or a girl in case they get treated differently is ridiculous.

I need to hide these threads.

It's mad, how this parenting will affect these kids who knows, Its like some weird social experiment.

By telling other adults the sex of their children they then open the children up to gender stereotypes (which are damaging) why wouldn’t they want to prevent that for a period of time?

It doesn’t confuse young children who have no to very limited cognitive ability to process sex or gender differences, all it can do is prevent damaging stereotypes being enforced upon young children.

It will be interesting to see how many kids will be in therapy when they are older

I fail to see this having the desired effect for very long My kids are still very much in toddlerhood and know the difference between a boy and girl. They have bathed together since DS was born, so DD (not quite 1.5yrs older) noticed pretty quickly that DS’s bits looked different to hers and asked me why. How would I have explained that without bringing the difference between male and female into it?!! She’s not yet cemented her pinnie to her chest and refused to leave the kitchen, whilst asking her dad and brother what they want in their sandwiches Fuck sake 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Its entirely possible to raise a child outside of typical gender stereotypes, while the child still knows that they are either male or female!! Sex and gender are two very different things.

And by preventing adults enforcing their stereotypes on the children (by not discussing the children’s genitals or chromosomes) they are changing the behaviour. They are forcing adults to think outside their own narrow views on how to address/discipline/praise even just interact with a person not based on wether they
have a penis or a vulva. Something we should all be aiming for hopefully?

i hate all this attention seeking bullshit. these children are little human beings not fucking experiments.
if the parents feel so strongly about this non genger bollox then why don't they shave their head and wear non genger clothes and called themselves a unisex name like leigh/lee
fucking idiots

I don't think it's much worse than dressing your young son in pink "because he likes it" and your young daughter in dinosaur prints "because she likes it". They're just making sure other people can't stereotype them. Bet they don't start threads fuming because Nursery gave their kid a doll to play with "just because she has a vulva".

More madness

Stop the World, I want off .

Mad mad mad mad mad mad mad!!!! like elevensmiles said upthread, it seems to be fashionable to jump on the bandwagon of some weird social experiment with children as the guinea pigs. I really don’t want to see what society is like in 20 yrs time, I thought present time has a few issues to say the least but, boy are some people storing up trouble for the future.

Leesa65 I'm coming with you

I certainly couldn't be bothered to do this but I don't really see the issue. They won't be able to keep it up for very long either.

Makes room at the departure point for Myotherusernameisbest

I 'get' not dressing babies in blue or pink, and providing gender neutral toys and books. Fine. However this is taking things too far. Can't really explain why....just a gut feeling.

Twins find it very hard to assert their individuality and identity anyway. Very sad to put another barrier in the way.