To not want my ex coming round to our house

[Twinkletoes85]

Not sure if this is the right board for this.

My ex and I split last year, I stayed in the house as I can afford it on my own and he can't. After a lot of messing around its up for sale which is fine by me.

The issue is my ex has now decided he wants to come round to the house weekly. He does have some things here still but its little things, glasses, clothes he doesn't wear etc

All the furniture, cutlery etc in the house was provided by me or my family (we have receipts) we weren't married so he has no claim to these assets.

He has not stated why he wants to come round but I presume it's to 'check' (snoop) on the house. The last time he was here without me being in he took photos of various items and is accusing me of leaving the house in an unhygienic state (it's not) so I don't feel comfortable having him there alone.

Am I unreasonable to tell him this makes me very uncomfortable and as he has no reason to be there ( no kids to visit etc) I would prefer him not to.

He is currently not paying towards the mortgage.

CHANGE THE LOCKS! If you live there alone now and pay for the house, he has zero right to access. Ignore and make sure he cannot get in.

Change the locks. He is trying to control you. Does he have any claim on the property?

Change the locks today.

He's legally still on the mortgage and the deeds until the house sells or we come to an agreement re buying each other out.

Legally I can't change the locks (as much as I'd like to)

Yy change the locks! It's got nothing to do with him even if you were living in your own filth!

Not that I'm suggesting you are btw...

The house we're buying had something similar. The person staying in it had installed a burglar alarm purely to stop their ex entering.
I'd also gather up all their stuff to return it and if they email/text images, reply, asking for clarification 'did you really enter the house without permission. Was it for an emergency? For future reference, please inform authorities if you believe their to be an emergency in my home. I struggle to believe you are invading my right to privacy when you must be aware of how inappropriate that is.

Justanothernameonthepage - in a way I'm glad to know I'm not alone.

I'm aware he still has rights and have tried to be an accommodating as possible with allowing him access to collect possessions but I think weekly visits is taking the mick. Even if he was still paying towards the mortgage.

I'm aware it's his house too but it's still my home for the moment.

Bag up All his stuff ASAP then he has no fictional 'legitimate' reason to visit. Then change locks, whose going to prosecute you for doing so? If he kicks off I'd say to him that as you are separated, he's not paying the mortgage now & there's no reason for visiting , so legally its stalking & harassment & you are documenting the behaviour.

Agree with csi. Change the damned locks before it occurs to him to do so when you're out. If he does that you'll have real problems getting rid of him.

As much as I totally get it, and you are entitped to privacy, as his name is on the deeds and the mortgage he has everyblegal right to be there whenever he wants. Yanbu to not want him there, but he has the right to sadly .