Should i cancel my doctors appointment?

[Happinessisabook]

I have a young dc, and since they were born I've been struggling.

I have felt very down a lot of the time, very teary, anxious and stressed. I've had days where I've felt completely useless, and like I've made a massive mistake. I've felt like an awful mum, like my child deserves better and I'm no good at this. There have also been days where I've looked at my child and felt nothing. On the other hand, some days i adore dc, and cant imagine my life any different.

The week before last I got to the point where I felt I couldn't cope anymore, so booked a doctors appointment to talk about how I'm feeling. The soonest appointment they had was this Friday coming.

Now, my question.
After giving birth I breastfed, so went onto the mini pill instead of my previous combined pill.
I'm no longer breastfeeding (my milk didn't come in properly and dc kept losing weight). On the mini pill I was bleeding almost constantly, so since I stopped breastfeeding and there was no reason not to go back on my previous pill I switched back.
Within a couple of days I felt amazing. I no longer cry at absolutely anything and I feel so much better. I do still have times when I find it hard, but changing my pill was like flipping a switch.

So should I cancel my doctors appointment? Or should I go anyway and tell them how I've been feeling? I still feel crap occasionally, but it's no where near as frequent or as bad.
I don't really know what to do tbh

I think you should still go to the appointment.

I would still go

I would still go but mention you have changed the pill at the appointment

I think PND is classically up and down, at least that was my experience of it. Go, they will probably want to see you again in a few weeks.

I personally would still go. At least then the doctor has it recorded which can help monitor you.

I went on the mini pill while still bf and I bled for months.... it was awful. I stopped the pill completely and now have normal periods even though I still bf.

Hormone changes play a big part with how you feel but mental health is not something to mess about with.

Do you are the health visitor at weigh ins regularly cause I found that really helped in the first few months.

Remember be kind to yourself. Being a mum is a really hard job. But you can only do your best. As long as you are feeding, changing, clothing baby. Giving it somewhere safe to sleep. Lots of cuddles and love they dont " need" anything else.

gummibear
I've been to the hv once, I'm planning on going again this week.

I did attempt to go to some baby groups a few weeks ago, but I found it so hard. I was freaking out walking up the street and nearly started crying at the thought of having to go inside. I felt like a bit of a fraud once I plucked up the courage to go in too, everyone was playing with their babies and doing all the cooing stuff. I just felt so awkward and like i was faking it and that everyone would see through me when I did it too. I haven't been back yet.

I had the implant. It sent me batshit crazy. I had crippling anxiety, mood swings and depression. I used to spend the whole day and night arguing with myself. Changed to copper coil... old happy self returned!

I suspect some of the others were faking it too

I think having read your update above definitely go.

I've had a so so day today, so I'm going to keep the appointment and just see what they say. I guess it won't do any harm to go.

How did you get on xx

The doctor said he can tell I'm feeling down, and wants to see me again in 2 weeks to see how I've been.
I've got to make plans for each day and focus on what I've achieved and the positives instead of negatives.
We will see how it goes.

When I first went on the mini pill I bled every day for well over a month. A girl at work encouraged me to keep going and eventually it stopped. I stuck with it because it had a really positive effect on my mood - that’s what’s important for you OP just find the one that’s right. On a separate note - sounds like you need support and I hope you get it.