To flirt with other rings?

[glamglittergirl]

A bit of background:

I married quite late in life and have been married only for a few years. I have always had quite an off/on relationship with jewellery in general, but I have always loved rings. I have never felt comfortable wearing rings on any other finger apart from third finger, left hand. I really don't know why.

I'm also quite a changeable person in general regarding style, colours etc. and will vary quite a lot day to day depending on what mood I am as to what I want to wear.

I do like my wedding and engagement rings but I don't want to wear them all the time and will often swap and change them for other rings. On occasion this has been noticed and people, usually women, have been quite disapproving of it and even shocked, seeing it as an indication that I don't take my marriage or my vows seriously. The fact is I take my marriage/relationship/husband very seriously! Surely that counts more than allegiance to two pieces of metal?

I know women who maintain that they have never taken their rings off at all since the ceremony. Most take them off for washing etc. but generally wear them constantly. I honestly can't imagine doing this.

And no, I don't want to wear them on a chain around my neck!

My attitude to the rings is that I feel that any sort of ring on that finger it is conveying the same message in society, which is that I am with someone. It could be a curtain ring or a daisy chain. In my eyes, even if I wear NO rings, which sometimes I do, it doesn't mean there's a problem with my marriage or that I'm not taking it seriously.

AIBU?

I don't see the problem op. I've got my actual wedding ring plus a couple of 'spares' , one in silver and rose gold. Dh is the same. I don't think it says anything about the state of your marriage.

As long as your husband doesn’t mind, then what business is it of anyone else? I’d be worried about losing mine, but that’s just me.

I keep mine on all the time because I'm scared of losing them and it makes me happy to see them - but I wouldn't dream of judging anyone who wanted to mix it up a bit! Rings are a symbol of your marriage but that doesn't mean your marriage is in trouble if you wear something else. You know yourself how secure and happy your marriage is. So I say ignore any judgy pricks who think it's an issue and do what suits you!

I have various rings that I wear in varying combinations. I don't actually have the ring that DH put on my finger... it was diamond set and the stones kept coming loose so it was returned and i bought a plain band. Sometimes I wear it... Sometimes i don't. I'm always married and faithful....a piece of metal is nothing.

I wear my engagement ring a few times a year and other pretty dress ring a little more often.... I have a wedding ring which I wear occasionally and just about know where it is.... a ring is just a symbol or piece of jewelry and if all my marriage is worth is that trinket, it's worth nothing. My husband does nt mind but he wears his ring all the time.... but he knows that I'm not a jewelry person....

I’m the same glam. I do wear my wedding ring most often and I chose a plain band for that reason but I do have other rings I wear instead as well. I like change and some things look better in certain situations than other. Have a lovely eternity style ring with diamond and sapphire in it that would be a pain to wear every day but looks nice when I’m dressed up. I don’t lose my original rings because I put them in my jewellery box. Dh has 2 rings for various reasons. It’s not the ring that makes me married or what makes my marriage secure.

I can't remember the last time I wore my wedding ring. Certainly haven't worn it regularly for at least four years and we've been married six next month. I wear my engagement ring a bit more often, for dressing up outfits.

My husband doesn't care. He's on his third wedding ring now anyway. He lost a lot of weight and his original wedding ring is too big and can't be resized; the second one we bought he is allergic to; the third one is an old ring he found in his bedside drawer because I refused to buy a third one unless I could have a new one too. He said no, so he doesn't get a new one either!

I hardly ever wear my wedding and engagement rings, only special occasions really. I have a plain band I wear day to day, but even then I often forget to put it on. I really don't care what people think. My husband doesn't wear a ring at all. We are extremely happily married.

YANBU
I only wear my rings if I'm going somewhere that requires getting a little dressed up (e.g. cafe - yes, supermarket -no). Probably partly because i grew up on a farm and simply didnt wear jewellery on a daily basis but also now as a SAHM with 2 little ones and a dog, I would be forever taking them off to wash my hands or do dishes, washing etc.

When I do wear them, i also swap between my engagement ring and the proposal ring (simulated diamond) that hubby bought me. (He wanted me to choose my ring but wanted me to have something to wear when he proposed). People have noticed i do this but no onr has said anything bad.

Yes. I am feeling much less wicked! My husband knows what I am like - it's the very same reason I would never get a tattoo!

I’m happily married, and neither of us has, or ever had a wedding ring. Anyone who thinks that not wearing them is a sign you’re boffing your way through the phone book has watched too many bad soaps where the Sleazy Adulterer slips off his ring before putting the moves on some girl in a bar...

I don't think it's a problem either
I wear my engagement ring all the time but we only got engaged in May so it's the novelty of it. Once we're married I will probably wear the wedding ring without the engagement ring some of the time and switch it up a bit.

Your relationship isn't defined by your rings anyway