To be pissed off with OH

[LadyRussell]

He suggested I invite my parents for a BBQ today.

All three of my grown up kids ended up turning up to see their Grandparents. It was really nice.

DH got tetchy as he wanted to go and do before he had to drive bank to work (he’s away in the week).

He was actually pretty rude and made it quite clear to me he was annoyed my parents had “stayed so long” they weee here for 6 hours.

His parents arrive on Thursday for a week so we won’t be able to to shared hobby at all during that period.

Well he’s a cunt then. I’d be making his parents feel as welcome as mine did for as long as they did.
And I’d be fucking of to do my hobby.

So his parents are coming for a week and he will only be there for the weekend?I'd have a word with him,if my ex had been that rude to my parents then his would be going home on the Monday.

DH suggested inviting your parents for a BBQ.

Who invited your 3 kids to join? Was he part of that decision?

If we have PIL we know it’s a maximum 3 hour visit, add in other family/friends and it goes on loads longer. I’d personally be annoyed at extra guests invited not discussed with me, and a night going on longer than I’d anticipated.

They live here and turned up from work to eat, and were aware of BBQ so I guess “invited”

2 of my 3 grown up children don't live here but I don't regard them as "guests"!!!

Why couldn't he have hung around for 3 hours, done the bbq-ing, socialised then snuck off to do his own thing? That's what happens here. DH does his bit then comes in to watch F1.

Because it’s rude. I wouldn’t dream of doing that the whole week his dad is here.

It was unacceptable to be rude, but I think totally appropriate for him to have left after 3 hours and done his hobby.

Iwantallthedogs.Do you never have parties that end up being fun and lasting for hours? The extra people were their own children and hardly guests! My DP does not like socialising much. He just takes himself off after a few hours to watch TV .

We only see them a few times a year and they live about 100 miles away.

Did he seriously expect them to drive 200 miles for the sake of being there around three hours? He needs a reality check.

What's so compulsive about his hobby that he needs to do it every weekend? And why can't he do it when his parents are there?

6 hours sounds a long time to me. If my mum and dad had come round on one of the days that my dp plays football, I'd have been quite happy for him to have chatted to them for a couple of hours and then gone off to see his mates. They wouldn't be offended either.

He wanted them to drive 100 miles and stay less than 6 hours?! I’d have excepted them to stay the whole weekend. And his parents are coming for a week but he works away so you’ll be hosting them for 80% of the time they’re here? Your husband is incredibly rude and selfish.

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Rereading the thread, I'm confused.

OP, Did I read it correctly: you invited your parents for a bbq, but they live 100 miles away?
If they live that far away why on earth weren't they invited for a few days, or at least to stay the night?

Either way, I still can't see the problem with your dp being polite and sociable for a few hours and then going off to do his hobby.

Since when do grown up children become guests?

So is this Golf related? Cycling ?
Selfish & Childish.
He said to invite PIL, his own DC arrived, & his hobby takes precedence.
Tell him his own parents can stay for 3 hours, actually 1.5 hours, as he won't be there

He's like a small child
Is he usually this selfish?

He suggested you invite them as well! He's totally out of order

YANBU. It was rude. Since it was family round I don't see why he couldn't head off to do his hobby after they'd finished the Bbq but if you guys are more formal and this isn't done then he should have just been polite.