to kill sexist jokes on Facebook groups?

[michellefromtheresistance]

Bloke posts sexist jokes on a Facebook group I belong to. It's just a FB group with people with something in common. But apart from reminiscing, there are some blokes who post sexist jokes, anti feminist jokes.

Instead of going along with 'it's just a joke, it's just banter, you can scroll on by' comments, I have started to challenge them. And would you believe how upset people get when challenged on such jokes.

Am I being a killjoy? Or a snowflake? Just some of the comments I have got.

The trouble is when you start censoring comedy, where does that end. Nothing wrong with not finding something funny for sure but taking it down starts a precedent.

Good on you for challenging them, they need to be pulled up on it, would you do that if it was a racist or disablist jokes, I hope you would. If they do this there, how are they like in different facets of their lives, work, home, social etc. At least hope that it got them thinking, and they will think twice before making such jokes again.

Good on you for challanging them. I once did this on a YouTube comment and got a barage of rape/death threats. Yes, their masculinity is THAT fragile.

You can challenge them all you want, if they don't agree they'll think you're a bit batty or unhinged.
Why b in a group with people whose views you disagree with? Just leave the group.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable. I wouldn’t let racist or homophobic jokes pass with out comment, I don’t see why you should let sexist ones pass. However, I think the effectiveness of this approach very much depends on the make up of the group. It can lead to a better atmosphere overall and stops people thinking that sort of thing is alright, or it can lead to a pile on against you and sexists who have previously been quiet start to post similar just to wind you up.

What are the opinions of the group moderators? Do you know of other prolific/respected posters who would support you.

Nothing wrong with not finding something funny for sure but taking it down starts a precedent

Not censoring - but challenging them with comments. People get very defensive and upset when they are asked why a sexist joke is funny.

Funny how the jokes usually are against women and rarely against straight, white men...

If you let them pass, they will think it is ok when it is not.

Maybe you should have found some male jokes, and see how they like it.

Why b in a group with people whose views you disagree with? Just leave the group

that's interesting. The actual group is great. But when people are 'off topic' and are doingsexist jokes, that's when things need challenging.

@michellefromtheresistance my bad I misread it! Nothing wrong with challenging it in my opinion that's up to you. For jokes though I tend to think nothing's off limits but it depends on the context of your group too.

I'm not really offended by sexist jokes myself; if it's funny it's funny. Otherwise you'd be stuck for jokes, a whole bunch of stuff would be off the table.

I think that if people did start challenging sexism, just like most decent people would challenge racism, then we might find that things slowly start to change and people will find sexist jokes and behaviours less acceptable

I don't see what you have to gain by challenging and staying in the group.
Why not say what you have to say and leave.
They aren't going to change and do you want to associate with people like this in the first place.

The OP has something in common with members of the group that she likes to chat about. The sexist jokes are a tangent from the actual purpose of the group. Why are people suggesting leaving the group because of something that isn't the purpose of the group anyway? It's not as though everyone in the group makes these "jokes". How are people supposed to have any sort of online interaction outside of their own little bubble if everytime some idiot plays to the lowest common denominator you have to upsticks and leave?

“They aren’t going to change...”

Why not? I’ve changed loads in my life, and for the better, I hope.

Often by paying attention when someone raises an issue I hadn’t thought of before.

Ahem...

You are right to challenge. Saying nothing is taken as agreement.

Killjoy.