I’ll try to keep this brief. I grew up in a rural part of the U.K. Met my husband at Uni and we moved to London together then got married and moved out to a county close to London when got pregnant with first dc. That was about 10 years ago.
Have been happy here but have been feeling for a long time that i’d Like to consider moving back ‘home’ to the rural county where i grew up. We have been looking to move to a more rural area for some years now but husband wants to stay in the South East. Housing is so expensive we can’t really afford what we want here, but we could easily afford it back ‘home’ where housing is much cheaper. I also have siblings there and would be so nice to have family around - here I don’t have any family apart from occasionally in-laws who live about an hour away.
I have brought it up a few times and each time I get shot down or talked around as to why moving to a different part of the country is such a bad idea. My husbands job is reasonably well paid but he has said he doesn’t want to do it forever. However when I bring up moving areas, he says there are no jobs for him in my proposed area and that I have rose tinted glasses of what it would be like to live there.
Husband is a good man, but I am worried he has made his decision, he has his parents not far away and to be honest is always extremely sensible in his decisions and is quite anti-change. I appreciate this would be a massive step for him but AIBU to ask him to consider moving for me?
Just for info we have three dc and I don’t work at the moment but plan to go back in next couple of years. Am happy to take whatever job would be local and part time wherever I am.