I’ve namechanged for this as it outs me completely.
Over 10 years ago I got married overseas and staying in the resort was a well known celebrity. We only had 2 friends at our wedding (DH’s best friend and his partner) and on the day of the wedding we bumped into the celebrity, had celebratory drinks later and had some photos taken with him. It was in the early days of digital photography and for more than 10 years I’ve only ever had a paper copy of the photo. No-one else had photos – it was my camera.
Recently I was chatting to some friends and I mentioned the photo; I’d actually forgotten I had it until the celebrity was mentioned. One of the friends I was with is a keen photographer and offered to scan the photo, make it look good (it was very faded) and send it to me. All good, and it was nice to now have the photo in my collection of photos on my phone.
Fast forward a few weeks and we have been away on holiday with the 2 friends who attended the wedding. I don't see them often but my DH sees his best friend at least once a week. I showed them the photo and they both asked me to send it to them which was fine. This was about 3 days ago.
Fast forward to this morning and I got a text from a mutual friend saying they loved the photo of us with the celebrity…… I was baffled until I realised that within an hour of me sending the photo my friend had uploaded the photo to her Twitter feed, tagged the celebrity, and asked if they remembered meeting. I wasn’t tagged or mentioned (hence I didn’t see it).
I’m really upset by this, possibly irrationally upset. This was a private photo that for more than 10 years only I had a copy of. I never planned to share it with strangers on the internet. I’m quite a private person who uses social media for my business but I don’t upload personal photos. I feel very betrayed that she didn’t mention it, even though we were together, or ask if I minded. I think I feel upset as it was my photo, not hers, and if I’d wanted to upload it to social media then I would have done it myself. I didn’t.
I genuinely don’t know if I am AIBU. I’m upset that a private photo belonging to me is now available for all to see, and also I think I'm feeling a bit hurt that I just thought she wanted the photo as a nice thing to have and show people but it was actually just to upload to social media. If she’d posted it as a happy memory of a special day I might have felt differently but it was about her meeting the celebrity…..
So AIBU or just too sensitive?