For sometimes doing nothing?

[Seekingaslapbabktoreality]

I spend a lot of time alone with my dd. I take her to plenty of places such as play centres, the playground, friends and families houses. With the warm weather we've had plenty of picnics etc.

Today though we haven't don't much. Just chilled out at home. Watched some tv. Played a bit. Did some washing and cleaning. She's 4....
AIBU to not bring her out today? I'm pretty tired the last few days and kind of need a day of nothing but I feel bad for her.
I don't remember going places everyday with my man but I did have a garden to play in.. we don't.

You can’t do stuff allllll the time! Rest days are lovely too :)

I home educate my son. I’m with him 24/7 I love ‘nothing’ days.
If she is constantly doing stuff she’ll grow up spoiled and unable to occupy herself

YANBU, I haven't done much today with 5yo DS. We normally have a lazy day on Sundays. We have been out for a walk this morning but been at home since 12.30. We don't have a garden either.

We watched a film together this afternoon and he helped me make dinner.

Is this a serious question?

Yes it's a serious question.

Thanks to those who answered. It's good to know lazy days are ok... We're normally busy. I'm just fed up thinking of things to do!!

Me and my 2 year old haven't even got dressed today. Sunday's are a day of rest after all lol.

This is an amazing book, beautiful, on a Magical Do Nothing Day ... its for children but its just as much for adults. I saw it at the Saatchi Gallery book shop in Kings Road, London

www.amazon.co.uk/Activity-Books-Childrens/b/ref=dp_bc_2?node=492672&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8

I think it is very important to have do nothing days. For one, if you are tired it is likely your child is too. My DD needs semi-regular do nothing days as otherwise she goes like a train, wears herself out and gets ratty.
Also it is important, imo, that children learn to amuse themselves and to see that life isn't just a series of days out. Real life is also cleaning, and saving money, and entertaining yourself quietly.

Why would it not be a serious question?! Ffs 🙄

It's fine to do nothing, OP. Don't beat yourself up. I get cabin fever so do try and get it and about, but we've been at home all afternoon and the DCs have quite enjoyed entertaining themselves. I used to love chilled afternoons as a kid. It's good for them to learn ways to entertain themselves and also to learn how to deal with being 'bored'.

Because it seems so obvious that's its OK to do nothing! Did your own parents spend all your waking hours occupying you? Unlikely I'd reckon. There are articles all the time saying it's good for children to be bored, as it helps them learn to occupy themselves, learn patience, become self sufficient etc etc

NotSo that link isn’t working for me and it sounds like something I’d buy! Just takes me to the children’s section of amazon. Would you mind sharing the title?

OP I often think I need to do Nothing days MORE! Don’t worry x

It's so important for kids to learn to entertain themselves and be bored sometimes.
I find the British obsession with being constantly busy and doing something quite odd. It's perfectly acceptable to have time doing nothing at all.

Why would it not be a serious question?

Because I find it hard to believe that an adult (a parent!?) doesn't know that a child wont spontaneously combust if they stay in their own home for the day and doesn't do the wonderful amazing stuff like soft play, parks, zoos, trips to the moon that mummy organises day in day out.

This is an absolute stealth boast. Well done op your killing this parent thing 😂👏🏼

I honestly think some people get a wee kick out of being a cunt.

I get no wee kick. If you think this is a serious question the world has gone to pot. Is it ok to spend the day in the house. Ffs 😂

You can see from the OP that it isn't a piss take. There's really no need to get superior about it. She's asking question. Don't like it? Move on. Just don't be a snidey cunt.

She's not just asking a question though is she. Do you think a grown adult doesn't know that it's fine for a child to stay indoors for a chilled day. The child is 4 and only now this has come into ops head? I'm not being a cunt. I'm pointing out this is a stealth boast.

I get where you’re coming from but there is a lot of competitive parenting that makes people feel like if they aren’t doing said trips to the moon, missions to Africa, 5 foreign language lessons etc then they’re setting their kids up for failure, or failing as parents.

On the other hand, I do agree that most realise that taking children out for full days every day or most days is unsustainable for little children. However OP might not be overdoing it - she mentions picnics and trips to friends and family - all fairly relaxed and low key, and don’t take a lot of time. My DD (3) can tolerate about 3 days in a row of being indoors before becoming restless. Equally she can tolerate about 2 busy days before she needs a rest.

Some people don't know it's ok, no. And that's ok. It's ok to ask. Really. There's plenty of things on here that I think 'OMG, really?!' but there's just no need to make people feel like a bellend about it. Be kind.

I am no cunt and I am no bellend. Question is a ridiculous stealth boast. If it was a genuine stupid question I'm all for it, I ask many myself. This is not one of them.

God what is it about MN tonight? Confrontational arseholes spoiling for a fight on loads of threads 🙄 Jeezo.

@QueenoftheSilverDollar12 Every night (and day, actually). Shame.

@martymc I've clicked on a couple of threads tonight where folk have been particularly vile/obtuse and being deliberately confrontational. Bizarre and seems worse than usual.

Some people have nothing better to do than piss on others.

Martymc you didn't confront at all did you 🙄.

I get perhaps my comment was uncalled for and not needed. But things like this really wind me up. Constant competition. And for most of it I blame social media.