To ask when did he show his true colours?

[Tumbelina29]

Anyone here dated someone who was very full on in the beginning, sweet and charming. Then changed.. how long did it take before he showed his true colours?

Not long. Maybe about six months, it's called love bombing, they make us feel so wanted and are almost borderline obsessed until they're comfortable enough to show themselves

Exactly. Just googled love bombing

About 4 months

@Teachtolive what did he do?

About six months.

You read like you're writing an article OP.

5-6 months here too!

About 6 months

About 6 months.

Got upset any time I had plans. Slowly began isolating me from my friends. But yes it does sound like you're writing an article!

3 months

I did well then. Alarm bells ringing after a year but I ignored them. Broke up after eighteen months. LDR though, that's probably why...

When he moved in.... , my fault two years down the line that I just suck it up. Sort it now!!

Think I’ve got alarm bells ringing now, 3 dates in! Unless he’s genuine...

After 6 months the drinking crept in, he would do nothing whilst I was at work everyday. Never cooked a meal or did the shopping. Just drink drink drink, then the verbal abuse came hand in hand with the drink and how dare I or anyone step in the way.

If you knew what to look for you’d see they were showing their true colours from the start. Outsiders can nearly always see the partners a wrong un. Listen to your friends and family.

If you listen you can read between the lines, some of the things i should have seen,if i had listened but didnt early on, made him sound like a paedophile, i still wonder!

About 6 months - the week we moved in together - away from London to the middle of nowhere.

About 4/5 months but there were many things in the earlier months that I should have picked up on looking back now!

After we married and I had a baby who is special needs. It seemed that as soon as I lost my independence and had to rely on family for help he became abusive and controlling. About a year after we married.

About 4 months ish. He love bombed me truly, Saying it was love at first sight, when we lost our virginity to each other, 4 months after we got to together, he started being verbally aggressive, swearing.