Was I rude or unreasonable.

[Rosie342]

I don't think I was though I'm open to being told otherwise.
I'd asked my husband to go out and get our bin in after the bin men had been. He came back saying some of the local children and their parents had put all the bins at the top and bottom of the alley to block it off while the kids played. He didn't want to go down while to parent where there, all drinking, smoking and being loud to get the bin because he couldn't be bothered with the argument.
I said fine, I'm not scared of them and will go get it myself. (He's had run ins with one of the mother's ex partners at the pub, resulting in him being in hospital due to them smacking him with a glass bottle) So that's what I did, infront of them and their children I grabbed my bin and wheeled it back up the alley into my yard, destroying their wall of bins. This resulted in them calling me a "miserable cow" and blaming me if their children where to get run over if they wondered near the road. I ignored them and locked my gate. But now I'm wondering if I should have just left it and waited till the morning because they are increasingly loud and their children and running around screaming and moving bins up and down the alley loudly.
Was I unreasonable or rude for just grabbing my bin and ruining their makeshift barrier?

To be fair, I would want the bin back if I had shitty nappies to put in it too, especially in this weather.

Do you mean they had put this wall of bins up so they didn't have to supervise their own children?

Pick your battles

Why the fuck should the OP be nice about it when they have moved her property.

Because manners cost nothing... and she has to live there?

@willburissomepig that's exactly what they had done. Still unsupervised now as they run around the block screaming and fighting and their parents are drinking. I'm just glad they don't live on this street

You're not unreasonable at all.

If they want their children to play outside safely, then they could've put their drinks down and actually been responsible adults!

We bring our bins in straight away also as so many where we love get damaged from the bin men throwing them around

@yorkiedorkie I did smile and ask which was my bin but I'm not going to ask for my own property back.

YANBU, they were CFers to take and use your wheelie bin, wheelie bins are not babysitters and I would have done the same.

You did the right thing. It’s your bin, end of.

Well you did the right thing in that it's your property so you had every right to go and get it.

But was it really the right thing because you antagonised them and are now sufficiently worried to have started a thread on mn.

I'd have left it tbh.

@rainyseptember I'm not worried about having antagonised them, they don't scare me and having gone to school with a number of them I know they are all bark and no bite. I just know sometimes I can be a bit unreasonable so was wondering if I was for getting the bin. I don't really care if they were annoyed I got it.

I think that you were unreasonable, unless you needed your bin.

It further enforces the divide.

There's doubt there, as said, or this thread wouldn't have been started and your DP would have got the bin in.

It would been better left until morning.

I can't believe you don't spend your life hiding and not wanting to upset people!!

But to me it looks like you're in a worse position for fetching it op. If you'd left it, you wouldn't even be giving it a second thought now. I don't understand why, for what gain?

@rainyseptember because I needed it and it so I didn't have rubbish in my house.

Your bin, you're allowed it back. If their kids are old enough to be playing in the road they are old enough to know how to keep themselves safe on the road x

I'm astounded that some people think that it's acceptable to use other people's property to block off a road and fence in their children rather than actually behave like reasonable parents. I'd say that's pretty appallingly lazy on their parts, and utterly ludicrous of them to expect people not to remove their bins. Of course it's not unreasonable to actually want to be able to use your own property for its intended purpose.

You should have walked down there and filled your bin with the stinkiest, rankest stuff you could find.

@Eliza9917 haha but then I'd have to bring it back to my house with all the stinky stuff in.

YANBU

I could nit havw got annoyed abut that. I’d have left it and got it later. Why deliberately antagonise people?

YNBU, it's your bin and these kids aren't your responsibility.

I'm curious to know what all the cars did if they couldn't get past?

Yanbu. How old were these children that are left with a wheelie bin stairgate?

@kinkyafro it's not like a proper road which they blocked, the cars sometimes come up but mostly don't. The put the bins in a way to stop the kids from leaving the alley and stepping into the road which runs between 2 alleys.

You pick your battles and some battles are not worth fighting just to prove a point. I thought you were a bit unfair on your partner given what he'd experienced. It was like saying to him 'I've got more balls than you- you coward'. I bet he felt great after that. I don't think it was necessary, how much did you need the bin at that particular moment, could it have waited? All we have to go on is the words you posted, in reality it may be very different in real life. I hope this doesn't come across as harsh, I don't mean to be.