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To be upset by others opinions nc

29 replies

Hidingbehindarock · 21/07/2018 19:04

Nc for this

Before we start yes i am over sensitive and need to grow a backbone.

This past year ive had others comment and inform social services of their opinions (all clear given each time)

Ive been called some of the most disgusting things a parent/human could be called to the point i almost had a breakdown whilst pregnant.

Ive had others comment on what we spend , that they hear us shouting and they are going to call ss.

And today someone saying they dont know what goes on in our house and therefore their child can no longer come here.

Without outing i cant say anything else. But im so pissed off that others feel they have the right to judge withiut knowing us, i am a good mum. They have everything they need, love discipline. Respect,time,food,clothes, dental check ups every 6 months eye checks every year, orthadontists, plus others .. i drive them to appointments nearly 4 every week. I spend all my time and money on them im giving them a lovely home to live in, i keep it clean and tidy. I really dont know why these people all unrelated cant just keep the noses out. My kids arnt angels but they are polite and respectful to others 1 of them is incredible popular. Kids gravitate to my house because we are warm and welcoming. I have worked with kids all my adult life.

Why can i just not let this comments pass over me like my husband does...

OP posts:
Hidingbehindarock · 21/07/2018 22:00

My last post before i delete this as people are just not understanding thus

Social services know us becuase someone reported ys maliciously already stated this. We have additional support for dd self harm ..it was agreed that smoking is allowed if she no longer self harm with tools. (I am the one glueing her bacj together little by little)

I have had to fight tooth and nail to get support for her .... social services are not i repeat not involoved now as theyre are no safegaurded issues.

I dont know these people well enough for them to be witness to anything..... and besides there is nothing to witness as i keep saying.

Read from it what you will i no longer care. I hoped for some support from others where by i have had the same judgmental shit i have in rl.

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Stephenstickinsect · 21/07/2018 22:12

Op I don’t think it’s that people aren’t supporting you it’s just it’s really confusing and what you have wrote is quite hard to follow

MrStarkIDontFeelSoGood · 21/07/2018 22:43

I know what I'm about to say will seem very mean to you but it's the honest truth

If a DC of mine came home from playing at someone's house and said that an older DC was smoking and discussing self harm or reasons for scars then I would be concerned about them going to play again as I wouldn't necessarily want them exposed to those kind of things and perhaps copy them or see them as cool.

I know this must be very hard for you and your DC but you have to see it from the other parents position

FoodGloriousFud · 21/07/2018 23:49

Surely there's more to this than you're letting on?!

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