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To be pissed off with DP for

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Mumbun11 · 21/07/2018 12:58

Had a small emergency with DM this morning so had to leave baby DS with DP. I'm always anxious when I leave them alone as DP has a regular tendency to fall asleep out of the blue, he works irregular shifts including nights so its not unusual for him to nod off out the blue and when he does there is no waking him.

We have an agreement (or are supposed to have) that when he looks after DS he is to keep his phone on loud so I can get hold of him for this specific reason.

An hour after I leave he sends me a jumbled text that makes little sense so I call him straight back thinking he's half asleep, no answer.

I text a few times and keep trying to call, no response.

Eventually I phone a neighbour and ask him to pop round and make sure all is well, if DP is awake etc.

Neighbour goes round and knocks on, DP answers and comes on the phone. I tell him I've had to leave DM and make my way home and ask why he wasn't answering the phone, he forgot to put it on loud he says. I ask what was with the incoherent text and he says sorry he was distracted and playing his Xbox.

Now his phone is on silent constantly and always has been but we formed an agreement that when he has DS it would not be.

I'm really peed off and he can't understand why that's the case, its no big deal he says.

Aibu to expect an open line of communication when he has the baby, given his tendency to fall asleep, and be pissed off that despite us reaffirming the agreement before I left this morning he doesn't bother to do so?

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AppleKatie · 21/07/2018 13:04

How old is the baby?

Wolfiefan · 21/07/2018 13:09

He just spontaneously nods off? Would he do that if he was driving or does he not think staying awake when in sole charge of a small child is important? Confused

AWomanIsAnAdultHumanFemale · 21/07/2018 13:11

He needs to deal with his sleep issues. It’s not normal that a parent can’t be left with their child incase they fall asleep. There is a medical issue here.

Mumbun11 · 21/07/2018 13:36

Baby is coming up 6 months, he spends a lot of time on his play mat trying to crawl and rolling about. I was worried he'd be left to his own devices and end up hurting himself.

I too think the nodding off is a medical issue.

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TeacupTattoo · 21/07/2018 14:01

Undoubtedly he needs to see his gp. There are huge safety concerns with this.

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